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People randomly stop writing. Just let her go and find the next one. Maybe after like a week or two, ask what's going on.
very unlikely ill find someone else, im not very confindent about that. Since this happens once in a blue moon for me. Dating has always been very hard for me
The mindset of clinging to this connection just makes it harder, trust me.
In online dating you have at least a 70% random loss rate that you have no real control over or idea what went wrong. Even in "real" dating, approaching people during hobbies etc, it doesn't work in like 30-50% of the cases where you thought there were sparks.
I know that it's hard, but you'll find someone again. A blue moon happened once, it'll happen again :)
thats true but i guess I'll have to be patient. I realized long ago that the blue moon comes when you don't expect it, every time
Patience is a virtue, but in this case, sitting on your hands and waiting weeks/months/years until you get another match is not a winning strategy. If you aren't getting many matches, you need to do the things which will result in getting more matches. Which means getting a better tinder profile. Which means becoming a hotter, more interesting guy, and accumulating high quality photos of yourself being hot and interesting.
Any dating advice that doesn't start with "make yourself into the kind of person that the kind of person you want to date wants to date" is garbage advice. In the dating marketplace, you can't be out there looking for "the one" who will just accept you just as you are no matter what. First of all, because these people are incredibly rare. Second of all, because people with such rock bottom standards typically have those standards because they are lonely, because no one wants to date them, because they are walking red flags. And third, because if you ever actually find "the one", you will perpetually live in fear of losing them because "you'll never get a chance like this again", which leads to being a needy little bitch that caters to all their partner's whims.
Don't do that! Just make yourself more appealing, and then you'll have options.