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In your opinion, what is the correct way to handle a partner who insists they are fat, even though you know that they're objectively not overweight? (reddthat.com)

submitted 5 days ago by ordnance_qf_17_pounder@reddthat.com to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Do you keep telling them they're not fat? Do you decide to just support them as they try to lose weight?

What's your opinion on this?

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[–] bluebadoo@lemmy.world 14 points 5 days ago

I allow them to feel fat while still demanding they provide evidence if they actually insist they are overweight.

I feel fat even when I’m in a healthy weight range; I think that is patriarchal social programming. I don’t think you can control how someone else feels. But when they start really getting down on themselves, I encourage them to either find evidence that they are overweight and then set goals to deal with it. Or, they can’t actually prove it (ie. They are healthy weight/waist) and then we deal with overcoming the social programming.

Not perfect, but it works for me and my partner. Mostly deals with accepting how we feel and making a plan about it.