Palestine

Always a fascinating little window into how the lemmy.ml community operates.

I think there are two things at work here:

1. One key thing is ignoring what the other person is saying, and instead explaining what the other person's argument / belief is, to them. In this case, I can tell you that I wasn't fine with Biden's support for genocide, and you'll tell me "You were just a denialist when Biden was in.", basically justify to yourself why I think something stupid, and then argue against that imaginary thing. It's honestly one of the most unproductive ways of engaging online.
2. Another key thing is the speaking from authority. You're constantly telling me whether what I am saying is valid, whether or not I've "proven" something. Of course, it never goes both ways. I could never tell you "you haven't actually been able to find any examples" right after you sent me a bunch of examples, or anything like that, because you ~~disagreed with my examples~~ declared that my examples were all invalid. The whole concept of it being two people with different points of view, who probably aren't going to walk away from the exchange with one person "proven right" and them both agreeing on that, is foreign here. I can see why you gravitate so thoroughly to governmental systems that kill their opponents and illegalize dissent.

I think #2 is why the lemmy.ml people tend to self-select themselves into such a tiny community. This place should be the flagship community of the software, but instead it is a kind of pariah community that most of the community actively avoids. Most people like being convinced of something a lot better than they like being ordered what they're allowed to believe and whether or not their current opinions are valid or not (and also assigned some new opinions if they ever disagree with the hivemind), and so they tend to exclude lemmy.ml.

IDK, man. Good luck to you guys figuring it out, I think you will have more ability to influence and communicate if you can get out of these habits.