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I'm gonna be honest, I've never watched these manosphere losers, but there are enough "no manlets" or "nobody under 6ft" ass women out there (mostly on dating sites, unfortunately which have become the primary way people meet partners these days) that the manosphere doesn't need to try hard to sell that one, women sell it themselves like an updated version of men wearing "no fat chicks" shirts in the 80s. Never seen "only short guys" or "nobody over 6ft" either, in contrast. There's "chubby chasers," where my "shorty seekers" at?
I know there are women out there that do date short guys and one shouldn't let the demoralizing messages from what I'm sure are horrible people anyway get to them, but ask a girl who was fat in the 80s, it isn't fun to see even though there are guys who are fine with fat chicks.
Didn't see much of that and I was on 5 or 6 dating sites a few years ago. I'm 5'8" and dated 3 women that were 5'10".
Funny thing is, it never occurred to me that I was short until around 35. Despite being broke I always had a pretty gf, never thought I needed to be taller. My first wife used to joke about my "short ass" and it finally hit, maybe I am a little short. Still, never bothered me. God told me I could have long femurs or a long dick.
On the other side, it never occurred to me that I'm short until I got on the original craigslist.org, back when it was Bay Area-only. The number 5'10" was absolutely ubiquitous. If I searched the w4m personals, it'd match about half of the postings. Searching for 6' matched quite a few more.
Some of the dating sites back in the day allowed people to specify their requirements in a partner. I noticed that the taller the woman, the taller her height requirements, of course. But also, the shorter the woman, generally the taller she wanted. It seemed like the minima was a height requirement of about 5'8" for men. (This was the Midwestern U.S.; results may have varied elsewhere.)
Wow! Never saw it dialed in to the inch. Only ever experienced "6' or GTFO".