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This is a women-only discussion community. If you do not identify as a women or fall under the umbrella cited in the community sidebar, then please refrain from posting or replying.

We're fighting a losing battle. This is a space where we are very clearly not wanted, and we cannot discuss women's issues without hostility.

Keep it limited to makeup and fashion, I guess, unless you want to be brigaded!

I'm over it. Let the boys have their playground. Lemmy is not a space that is welcoming to women, and, because of that, unless sweeping changes are made, I just don't see myself ever recommending it to any women as a good place to make a community.

I'm not going to contribute to its growth or content any longer. "PROGRESSIVE" space. Garbage. Absolute fucking hypocrisy. I'm so sick of having to explain myself and be made to feel like I need to justify my existence here.

Good luck, sisters. I'm desperate for community, but this feels more like a battleground than it does a home.

We appreciate the sideline supporters who respect the community rules & expectations and are respectful enough to not interject. You are very much loved and respected, brothers. 🫶

EDIT: This community & its moderators have been nothing but kind & respectful to men who post here, and are constantly shit on & downvoted because of it.

I have resorted to being hostile! And I see very little difference in how this is being received compared to them.

My blood pressure too high rn.

EDIT 2: Mods.. I'm sorry for leaving you to find this dumpster fire of a thread! I gotta go to bed and I'm sick of trying to explain things to people who don't actually care or want to understand.

Women: attempt to foster & curate their own community to talk about women-centric issues and experiences without being drowned out by majority voices

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[–] MTK@lemmy.world 7 points 3 days ago

Sadly Lemmy really isn't all that fit for this situation. I think the best that can be done is making a womens only instance, which should actually work pretty well but would be hard as visibility would be low (women who are new to lemmy might have a hard time even learning of the instance) and of course the admins would have to work hard as they would have to vet new users.

I think this can be done if there were enpugh willing admins, but I'm not sure there are. I personally don't have any experience on being a Lemmy admin but I do know IT and I am willing to help, so if anyone does want to make a womens only instance you could PM me 🙏

[–] DearMoogle@lemmy.today 17 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (7 children)

It’s not good, but that’s why I generally keep it super simple. Makeup, fashion, hobbies, if I’m going to participate lol. Nothing remotely political. In fact - much like online video games, I have other accounts where I don’t reveal my gender or I’ll even talk like a dude on purpose. I already know we’re vastly outnumbered here, so I don’t care to invite mean comments from men. Big kudos to any fighting sisters out there, but I don’t want that stress in my life.

Maybe I should start treating this place more like my Tumblr and just post pretty pictures I like without giving a fuck lol

[–] ZDL@lazysoci.al 4 points 3 days ago

I'd be down for that. Having pretty between all the goons would be a relief.

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[–] Diva@lemmy.ml 10 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (2 children)

Lemmy has a wide variety of chauvinists who think they're as left as it gets.

hexbear.net local was actually a great mental health break compared to any version of lemmy

[–] DrFistington@lemmy.world 13 points 3 days ago (2 children)

The Internet in general isn't a good place for anyone, especially women

[–] Walk_blesseD@piefed.blahaj.zone 5 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Some places are better than others. Lemmy is worse.

[–] foxglove@lazysoci.al 2 points 2 days ago

I was wondering what places are better - Tumblr maybe? Reddit and Lemmy seem both similarly male dominated, and I agree with JohnnyFlapHoleSeed that internet communities in general are male dominated and not friendly to women ...

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[–] Plesiohedron@lemmy.cafe -5 points 2 days ago (2 children)
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