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I sleep by myself (well, with my dog, but she doesn’t ruffle the sheets). For me, making my bed is as much as flipping the bed sheets back once I get out of bed. It takes all of one second when I get out of bed; and yes, it looks nicer.
But, no judgement, so you do you.
Ps. It’s only a big deal if you make it a big deal. 😊
I used to think like this but then at one point I looked at my bed and I can't stand it. It eventually reflects on how you treat the rest of your home and outside as well . If you find a 10 second task infuriating and pointless that's not too far off from thinking mopping , cleaning toilet , ironing clothes are a waste of time as well.
I like it to look nice and neat. Mess and disorder puts me on edge. I like the bed made with the pillows fluffed and throw pillows placed in a certain way. And I do feel like it's more comfortable to sleep in a bed that has been made, because the pillows are fluffed and all the sheets are smoothed out and evenly distributed between my husband and me. I do just get in bed and turn over, I don't rearrange anything, and instead of a blanket I have my hubby for knee support :)
Generally I agree, and am so deep in the habit of not making my bed that it's never a thought in my mind. That said, if you or someone you might be sharing the room with is experiencing any kind of hard emotional state and feeling overstimulated, then making the bed as well as other general cleanup can make the space less noisy. In that context it can be therapeutic.
It is also actually not healthy to make it right after you slept in it.
Yes, ideally you air it out first before letting the moisture get trapped. But between waking up and getting out of the bathroom is all the time I am willing to delay making the bed. I wanna move on and not be stuck in "morning mode" forever (unless it's the weekend).
No matter how shitty my day is, at least the bed is made.
Also, the texture of the sheets on your body feels smoother if the bed was made hours before going to bed, than that feeling of untidy sheets. My sleeping position is sideways, the blanket below me, back is cold, feet over the edge, only one leg covered.
I air my bedsheets outside 3 days after changing them, I change them once a week. Also, my bed is for sleeping and the nasty only.
And from personal experience, partners who didn’t make their bed tended to not have their shit together, so I’m kind of biased.
The ritual of unmaking the bed can help some people, who experience difficulties sleeping, mentally prepare for sleep.
Most of our daily routines are.
Where it is nice is when you want to lie down you don't have to untangle the sheets.
You just lie down and the sheets are perfect.
Also its nice to tuck them in at least partially to make it easier to make.
Nice to climb into! I cannot believe OP would rather not take 30-seconds to pull everything straight than crawl into a clusterfuck.
I'm with you here. It does look nicer when it's all "setup" but for its purpose, I agree... makes no sense if I'm going to be under the covers anyway. Society plays stupid games and well... you know the rest.
It makes it more comfortable to sleep in.
More comfortable for the cat. She doesn't like it when it's a mess
I thought the one thing to worry about with the bedsheets is not to grow a large population of mites in them. So you mainly want to keep it ventilated.
For me, I like to make it for t o reasons. First, in opposition to your first point, it does make the bed more comfortable. I can skip a day, but any more and the covers are too messed up for me to be comfortable. I don’t sleep like Lenin or Dracula. I’m a side sleeper and I roll around multiple times in the night, but I like the room cold at night, so I like the covers in place.
Second, I learned this from a grand parent I think, and I passed it on to my kids. If it’s the first thing you do in the day you’ve started the day on a good note. You completed something. Admittedly, when I was younger, this didn’t matter to me at all. As I’ve gotten older, it makes a little bit more difference.
Firstly, I respect your opinion as I probably shared it in the past.
Secondly, we're obviously talking about making the bed as in after you wake up. Making the bed as in fresh linen is an amazing feeling and absolutely worth while once every few weeks.
Now, to rebut your comments...
This is a silly reason, and I don't see how it's true.
It does however make bed time feel calmer and more soothing somehow. In my 20s I didn't care about quality sleep because you just bounce back from anything. In my 40s I do think about things like what might contribute to the perfect night's sleep. Having a shower, putting on clean pyjamas, and climbing into a nice bed in a tidy room just kinda sets the scene for a good sleep.
any task not worth my time to be a waste
this is subjective. Your whole argument may as well be "I don't value having a made up bed", which would be fine, but that's not an unpopular opinion so much as a personal preference.
Regardless, you don't "make" the bed the same way you make it when putting on fresh linen. You just flick the covers straight. It takes less time than scratching your ass.
It's kinda weird how often people do see our bedroom TBH. Usually it's someone using the toilet in the en-suite when the other toilet is in use.
There's no way our kids would keep a nice tidy bedroom if we didn't.
- It makes it more comfortable.
[I have absolutely no idea where that comes from.]
This is a silly reason, and I don’t see how it’s true
Laying down in a bed without wrinkles is more comfortable than laying down in a bed with wrinkles.
I like to be able to sit or lie on my bed after a long day without it being lumpy.
It looks nice. And an unmade bed looks lazy.
These are two separate reasons and I only subscribe to the former one.
And I do it because I think it looks nice. It makes me happy when things look clean and tidy. Messy, while less work and sometimes more functional, perhaps, still makes me feel worse in my own home. I don't make my side of the bed to impress my wife. In fact, I get kind of annoyed when she doesn't make her side. But she has mostly wonderful qualities besides that, so I'm okay with it.
Either way, you're not exactly complaining that we like to make our beds, but I'm trying to let you understand that it's not always about some kind of principle or to impress, or otherwise useless reason. Sometimes it's just what makes you feel good. 🙂
You don't need to remake the bed just for sitting on it, you just need to adjust the bed sheets for five seconds.
shameful cleaning ritual is a bit of a harsh descriptor, but hard agree with everything you said.
But have you considered not wanting to lose something you toss on the bed?
HEAR HEAR
My SO hates sheet wrinkles so for them it’s not performative.
I’d be fine with an assortment or flat sheets and blankets loosely rolled into a ball that I could both lay inside or on top of.
Only if you get nothing from it.