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Dude, you do New comments from the feed, right?
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Nah man, just asking, cuz I always see your comments first, and I do New as well, not many people do though, lol, that's why I was asking ๐.
Always use new ... like a normal person.
Algorithms are for people who never learnt to tie their own shoelaces.
A really good example of when not to use an algorithm but it is forced upon the users is Facebook Marketplace. Who wants to see suggested items in a competive secondhand buying market??? It's a first in best dressed environment. Shows how out of touch with reality FB Devs are.
Completely agree on that. I've never bought anything on FB, just because it was f*ing annoying with the suggestions. FFS, if I wanted to buy something, I'll look for it, OK ๐.
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I use All/Hot, but whenecer I post something, I immediately switch to New to verify if my post is up and federated, and I just so happen to see this post.
Just swipe down and refresh man, no need to reload the feed ๐.
I refresh Lemmy like every 5 minutes so I probably see posts before many people.
lol, me as well ๐.
Most people are at their jobs, but I'm just a depressed college student currently taking a year off so I actually have energy to either continue college or get a job. Most people don't have as much free time as I do.
Depends what you do and where you work. I work in IT, so... any time when there is no emergency is free time, lol ๐.
BTW, what did you study?
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Good thing I asked, I kinda felt there would be emotional/info dumping. I'm here buddy, any time you need to talk ๐.
Meeh, don't worry about being late on the first day, can happen to anyone. In fact, I was always late fir classes, lol ๐. Good thing I did state competitions in high school, so everyone was lenient on me. Uni wasn't as easy regarding the late thing, but once I got to know a few people that were always on time, I decided to hang out with them, cuz... you can't be late if you hang out with the ones that are always on time, lol ๐.
My point is, don't beat yourself up over it, it can happen to anyone.
So basically from that point on, I was a dissappointment to her. Every week she reminds me how I wasted her money.
This is... not OK IMO... especially since she knows you've got a condition. Hey, it's only money... money comes, money goes. Sure, they are a necessity for living, but... hey, shit happens. I've probably burned like 30k in my life for people that didn't make it in the end (radiation therapy, cancer), but shit happened... that's why they're called savings, you save for... whatever, whether it be good or bad.
I think you should maybe move in with a relative or somethig, maybe your dad... or maybe like get a gf, move in together. This just seems like a really toxic environment to be in. I can relate up to a point, cuz my dad used to be somewhat toxic (he's deceised), but not to that level. He'd usually give me shit about the music I liked or how I dressed (he wasn't even a boomer, early boomer at best, he was born 1939... I think). Still, if he was the only parrent I had left, I would have probably moved out.
Anyways, I know people love to leave their parents as soon as they can.
Meeh, depends on the pareents if you ask me. My mom was pretty OK, so I didn't move till I was getting married.
But you never know if you are actually capable of doing it until you try. I couldn't even do it with all my expenses paid by my parents, I definitely wouldn't be able to if I had to fund myself. The future just seems so bleak to me. Like I can't even function as a human being.
That's your depression and anxiety speaking. Sure you can, everyone can, it's not that hard. You just rob a few convenient stores and you have anough money for the month, lol ๐.
Seriously though, it is hard, but we have to do it. Go to a therapist, get a second opinion, cuz your current prescription might not be good for you... you may need dosage adjusting and/or adding/removing something from the mix. After that, try and find a job, something you think you might like doing, so it wouldn't be a drag to actually go to work and do your job. Do a bit if that, save up some money, do a bit of soul searching in the meantime, whether you really like studing computer science or not... just really dig into it, but let things settle down, don't do this or that impulsevely. Than, after a year or two, make a general plan of what you would like your life to look like and just follow it ๐คท. There will be ups and downs, no doubt there, but every time you take a punch, get up and move on. Learning how to lose is the biggest lesson in life you can learn ๐.
Sorry for the wall of text... wait, did I just write an essay of my life story? Ahh... I wish I had this motivation when I was still in college.
No worries man, any time ๐ ๐. PM if you feel like talking ๐.
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