Side one: Bully punches you in the face, full force and never ceasing.
Side two: Your pleasant enough neighbor annoyingly pokes you gently in the ribs, a few times a day randomly.
"Both are assaulting me!!!"
Yes technically, but one is a very different situation. You first defeat the thing punching you in the head so you can live another day to fight the thing giving you the random poke. Whoever doesn't get the fact that your right to even attempt to fight back is likely the cost of trump at this point... Jan 6th did not happen before in any of our lifetimes, things are tangibly escalating and those of you considering this as a choice at all are just far too comfortable in the rights you think you "own".