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TRIGGERS FOR VIOLENCE, CHILD ABUSE, DOMESTIC ABUSE

We deal with the Manosphere a lot in this community, and we know how dangerous they can be. But when should you be concerned about a social media member?

I'm a dv outreach worker and the below is based on academic articles re incels and lone actor grievance fuelled violence.

Offender warning signs

• Male, with a history of ACES
• Misogyny is linked to violent extremism
• Autism is NOT a cause, but research indicates it is linked to large scale incel attacks. Please note:

1. Autism makes a person more vulnerable to being groomed to commit attacks
2. When an autistic incel attacks they usually have a mood disorder, psychosis, or psychopathy

What leads to the murder?

• Stressor – arrest, reputational harm, trauma etc
• Most have a diagnosis of Mental health or have had in the past (but there’s no capacity issues and some are just unusual personalities)
• Lone actor mass killers feel mistreated by a group, or society (often women)
• Often feel their identity is under attack

Warning signs for attack

• Fixations getting really distorted
• Doing badly socially
• What they say about the target gets more extreme
• Interest in guns
• History of crime and abuse
  _ Leakage – for many reasons terrorists, lone violence actors etc tend to leak their plans to someone including:

1. In small and indirect hints in text messages, social media posts, or other communications.
   2)Can be verbal or visual, and can be specific details
   3)As individuals get close to acting out their planned attack, they may first engage in rehearsals of the act including fantasy writing.

So what can you do?
Google your local crime authority and report to them, they can take safeguarding or criminal action. Maybe nothing will happen, but you've tried... and it can prove a pattern of behaviour which can be important in the future for social services, family/criminal court etc.

My local discount store doesn't have my size in work shoes right now (US 7.5 women's, 5.5 men's) and I was wondering where people buy them online.

The discount ones usually last me 2-3 years, and the mid range ones were the same. Super expensive and high quality might last longer, but I can't really afford them tbh. The absolute cheapest I got had the soles fall off while walking on a hot roof, so some known quality would be nice.

I'd prefer steel over composite, because the composite is the failure point this time. With steel it was always something else.

I'll probably end up picking up a new pair when I have more reasons to travel to a different store, but it doesn't hurt to hear people's suggestions. They can be boots or sneakers. I just want the right size.

I just casually looked and it seems like piefed might support post flairs. I may be mistaken, but is that accurate? Could there potentially be a flair added to all posts stating this is a community for women? I'm using an app that's still in development so it's possible I just don't see posts as fully featured as they are, but I believe I saw that post flairs may be or will be compatible with all federated services. Do any of our mods/members know more about this? Apologies if this has been mentioned before.

Sorry last one didn't post!

Even a tiny thing can have a big impact! What's something kind someone did for you?

Asking for a friend. They aren't transgender but also aren't men.

Also, just wanted to get out of the way that my name isn't Patrick nor is it Patrick Star, as anyone who has watched Spongebob would know (Spongebob is my comfort show).

We made it to Friday! Our game is simple. One person comments with an animal or fish, and the next person replies to them with an animal or fish that starts with the last letter of the word they said. Eg first person says aardvark next says koala and so on.

Alternatively reply to the post starting your own chain!

July is disability pride month. You don't see it advertised many places, despite us being a massive part of the population!

I couldn't sit through the first episode of AJLT but I read this and similar reviews. It sounds really, really badly written. I've found aspects of SATC haven't aged that well, mainly that they spend most their time talking about men. What's your thoughts?

Did your child make you laugh hysterically? Had a good day with friends? Good result at work? Whatever it is, we want to know!

Life is basically a series of lessons. What's one you learned and what did it teach you?