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TRIGGERS FOR VIOLENCE, CHILD ABUSE, DOMESTIC ABUSE

We deal with the Manosphere a lot in this community, and we know how dangerous they can be. But when should you be concerned about a social media member?

I'm a dv outreach worker and the below is based on academic articles re incels and lone actor grievance fuelled violence.

Offender warning signs

  • Male, with a history of ACES
  • Misogyny is linked to violent extremism
  • Autism is NOT a cause, but research indicates it is linked to large scale incel attacks. Please note:
  1. Autism makes a person more vulnerable to being groomed to commit attacks
  2. When an autistic incel attacks they usually have a mood disorder, psychosis, or psychopathy

What leads to the murder?

  • Stressor – arrest, reputational harm, trauma etc
  • Most have a diagnosis of Mental health or have had in the past (but there’s no capacity issues and some are just unusual personalities)
  • Lone actor mass killers feel mistreated by a group, or society (often women)
  • Often feel their identity is under attack

Warning signs for attack

  • Fixations getting really distorted
  • Doing badly socially
  • What they say about the target gets more extreme
  • Interest in guns
  • History of crime and abuse
    _ Leakage – for many reasons terrorists, lone violence actors etc tend to leak their plans to someone including:
  1. In small and indirect hints in text messages, social media posts, or other communications.
    2)Can be verbal or visual, and can be specific details
    3)As individuals get close to acting out their planned attack, they may first engage in rehearsals of the act including fantasy writing.

So what can you do?
Google your local crime authority and report to them, they can take safeguarding or criminal action. Maybe nothing will happen, but you've tried... and it can prove a pattern of behaviour which can be important in the future for social services, family/criminal court etc.

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[–] mauuumauukittycat@piefed.blahaj.zone 5 points 5 days ago (1 children)

tysmm saved on all three threadiverse accounts

first saved post on dbzer0 lemmy

[–] oftheair@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Thanks, though um. This feels a bit ableist against autistic folks.

[–] LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone 4 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I get that, it's unfortunately what the literature says. I've read a lot of academic research and it's something that comes up a lot.

[–] oftheair@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Any chance you could add clarifications or warnings? If that would be okay.

[–] LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone 2 points 5 days ago (1 children)

OK what kind of thing were you thinking?

[–] oftheair@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Saying that something like not all of these opinions are agreed upon by me/this community or that autism itself does not cause this, and warnings for potential ableism or something, if that's okay and makes sense.

[–] LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone 2 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Yes I can edit it now to emphasise autism isn't a cause of it. Just give me a sec

[–] oftheair@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Okay, thank you and take as much time as you need 🙂

[–] LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone 3 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Done I'm sorry I should have worded it better

[–] oftheair@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 5 days ago

It's okay! We appreciate the edit to clarify things <3

[–] klemptor@startrek.website 5 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Sadly, this is really important knowledge to have - thank you for sharing it. Stay safe everyone 💜

Stay safe ❤️

[–] frenchfryenjoyer@lemmings.world 3 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Thanks for sharing this!!! first post I've saved 👍

You're welcome, and if you see it, report it

[–] hildegarde@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 6 days ago (1 children)
[–] LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone 3 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Good point I changed it, it's mental health

[–] hildegarde@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Thanks! I wrongly assumed from context it was a specific disorder that I was unfamiliar with.

Yep I get that thanks for pointing it out 😊