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meh. you're not a psycho.
compassion is a muscle. if you've never spent much time, dedication, or effort working on empathizing with other people you won't be good at it (or even think about it).
we just so happen to live in society where those skills are not as rewarded compared to being self centered, independent, and ruthless. conditions maketh the man. hang out with someone who's got a lot of compassion and concern for the feelings of others and you'll quickly realize what you thought was your personality is actually a learned maladaptive response to living in a cruel and apathetic world.
Couldn't have been better said. I work in an industry full of narcissists, the OP just needs to regularly start flexing the part of the mind that allows us all to sincerely conceptualize the situation of another party. It's strangely fun once you get good at doing it.