this post was submitted on 28 Feb 2025
840 points (98.5% liked)
196
4770 readers
1191 users here now
Be sure to follow the rule before you head out.
Rule: You must post before you leave.
If you have any questions, feel free to contact us on our matrix channel.
founded 2 years ago
MODERATORS
you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
view the rest of the comments
Ok riddle me this. How can we normalize sex, if women have to walk on egg shells because any sign of platonic affection or romantical availability (in their eyes) will be met with unwanted approaches from certain parties.
well in theory if sex is normalized people won't be so weird about it.
How about we also normalize men being okay with being told no?
Look, I was trying to come up with some good hearted explanation for men's behavior (something about not being able to put themselves into womens shoes) because I didn't want to get downvoted to shit again, but frankly I don't care anymore.
Because it mostly comes down to women being fucking horrible communicators and having chronic indecisiveness.
Figure your shit out.
That goes for society in general & we can't pin that on women. Look at autists try to navigate social situations to observe how complicated neurotypicals make something that could be straightforward. Simple, clear directness often takes boldness & isn't typically rewarded. Learning not to give a fuck takes effort.
Women & people in general don't know who they're dealing with & don't owe them much of anything.
? I'm a Dominatrix, my experience of women and as a woman is that they are excellent communicators (women are actually famously good communicators) and not indecisive (unless you're trying to be pushy and force them into something they dislike?). Both men and women who are new to exploring their sexuality will not know what they like, but that's just part of being new to something.
I've gone to sex clubs, try it some time. They usually have strict consent rules and staff to help deal with conflicts. Saying No is not usually an issue there, because there's rules in place for how to approach women and what you must do when they say no.
If a woman isn't interested in discussing sex with men she doesn't like, she doesn't have to. It's important to have and express boundaries - that's a key part of healthy sex. That includes a boundary of not talking about sex with men she doesn't want to.
honestly "normalising sex" does sound silly, but i'm for shunning the shitheads.
What if we only normalise gay sex?
Nice try Italy, we're not doing ancient Rome again.