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Helping a two years old falling asleep (piefed.jeena.net)

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Our boy turned two and during the last weeks he has trouble falling asleep. He always went to sleep at 9 which was already late. But now he just doesn't fall asleep sometimes until 11.

Even when we try to bring him to bed at 8 it takes also two to three hours for him to fall asleep.

He only let's his mom bring him to bed and then she stays there with him until he falls asleep. Sometimes he asks for me additionally to join and then he rolls in the bed kicks us, climbed on us and so on because he can't fall asleep.

More often than not we fall asleep first and only then he falls asleep. He doesnd go out of the bed or anything just can't fall asleep.

Any tips what worked for your children?

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[–] TomSelleck@lemm.ee 6 points 1 day ago (2 children)

We’ve had some sleep issues and we had to use sleep training. We didn’t go full “cry it out”, but they have to get used to falling asleep by themselves. As long as someone is there, they’ll continue to be stimulated because they want to play, cuddle, and have fun. It wasn’t easy, but the lack of sleep was killing us. It’s feels pretty rough during their “learning phase”, but looking back after 8 years, it was the right choice.

[–] jeena@piefed.jeena.net 2 points 23 hours ago

When he was 10 months or so we had this too, so we did even with the crying out because I was so exhausted that I couldn't take it anymore because he would also wake up every hour. What improved was that he would sleep longer during the night but we couldn't quite transition to removing ourselves.

So now he never wakes up at night anymore. But sadly the problem moved to him not falling asleep forever.

[–] sbv@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

We were lucky - our guys went to sleep pretty well on their own, but there were a few times where they were crying and we needed to stop ourselves from going in.

I think we did a thing where we'd go in immediately after the first shout; if he cried again, wait five minutes before going in; then ten minutes, etc. IIRC it took a few nights.

[–] jeena@piefed.jeena.net 2 points 23 hours ago

We did this too when he was like 10 months. Hm, perhaps it is time to try again.