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It's surreal to have innate feelings and thought patterns that are completely intuitive to you, but it turns out that 99% of people think differently. (lemmy.world)
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I always assume that my brain is structured in a way that at least 5% of people could relate to my general thought processes, but it turns out that some of my experiences of being a human are really just a "me" thing. I've often told myself that I'm just like everyone else, and that all of my personality traits are explainable by a mishmash of stereotypes and systemic influences. But I guess there's more to it than that, and I've been selling myself a bit short.

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[–] sprigatito_bread@lemmy.world 1 points 4 months ago

I've heard that's called aesthetic attraction! I experience that too.

I'm attracted to gentle and caring personalities, and I've found that I am most aesthetically attracted to soft, rounded features, seemingly because I subconsciously associate them with kindness and approachability, regardless how true that actually is.

I think it's really fascinating how my aesthetic attraction seems to have taken input from my emotional attraction without me even being consciously aware of it. The more I learn about myself, the more it seems like my brain was orchestrating a plan to create a specific kind of relationship, and all of my attractions and even my own gender expression were coordinating to make it real.