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Throw away account obviously but I'm sitting here, on a Friday night alone. I recently split off with my fiancee of 2 years, we were supposed to be wed in a few months. Shes off partying and living life up, and I'm happy for her. We still live together for the time being before our lease ends. This is exactly how my previous relationship ended. Ironic. She has a social circle to support her.

Well, throughout the course of 5 years, I have slowly burned many bridges of friends and over the course of 10 years, have destroyed many women's perception of trust. The list goes on. My regret and guilt is an all time high.

On top of this, my family doesn't really know the real me. I have such a hard time making connections with them and others at this point of my life.

I am seeking to rectify the entire situation by trying some therapeutic techniques. AMA.

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[โ€“] Maeve@kbin.earth 1 points 1 week ago

Thank you so much for sharing that. It's a moment I feel, with you and it's more treasured because it's shared, not greedily, stingily hoarded.

How did I forgive others first? I'm not sure, but I believe it was because

Saw how I could see myself behaving/thinking/speaking to me that way if I thought this, or it looked like that, or at least how I could feel like it (eg, doing the thing in my heart).

It seems like releasing those grudges against others was the key that unlocked the door to self-forgiveness. Before then, I considered it sheer nastiness, no rhyme or reason. Maybe it was, maybe it wasn't. That's not the point. I saw how in certain situations how I could think, speak, behave, or want to do, if it looked, sounded, came across a type of way. I think at some point, I realized my tendency to judge others was based on what's in my heart, whether acted on or repressed, and I think there's possibly some hairbreadth between repression and suppression, but I'll have to ponder that last bit. And it just smacked me in the face after a few months wrestling with it, with God, with the universe, with myself that I so hated and resented it because it's in me..

So instead of running from God, my demons, addictions, anger, grief pain, resentment, my *self, ** I ~~tanned~~ teamed up and started working with them. Conventionally religious people try to tell us we're running from God. No. We're running from ourselves but we're always wherever, whenever, whomever we run to. So we may as well be someone we can live with, because as long as we live, the only person we have to live with is ourselves. Old people, places, things, activities, distractions will try to seduce us again. External validation is a dual-edged sword, great for exhorting us to be our best selves, tempting us to give into the worst us we hide from ourselves and others, when those sources are justifying their own cleverly hidden not-great shadows, to feel better about them. A ~~weird~~ word of encouragement, dear soul - when we really admire and long for an admirable quality in another --it's usually hidden way, deep down in the shadow, too, at least the seed.

I read back over some of your posts itt. If you care to share, what is your spirituality? You can share here, in DM, or not at all, as you prefer, I'm good either way. Encouraged and richer for this conversation. I probably won't see your reply until tomorrow, but I've not forgotten you. I doubt I ever will, regardless of how long we share our internet path.

It doesn't take away from some of the evil that inhabits some pockets here and there but I can learn to ignore the noise and go by the beat of my own drum.

It's like driving or biking. Keep your eyes on a spot too long and the vehicle easily ends up there, in a ditch or woods, you know?

Hello my sibling, I hope life is treating you well too.

~~Help~~ hello dear sibling! Life is lifing! We are in the ~~works~~ world, but our kingdoms are within us. Which means life is so good. All the time. We just forget during conflict, challenges. And that's just mental, spiritual, emotional exercise. Free workout ๐Ÿ’ช.

If we stumble, if we fall, we get back up and start again. That's all. It's never too late!

Please remember that our journey is a short one so lets make the best of it while we have the chance to.

Yes it is, and yes, we can and we shall. I'm so honored to share this portion of the journey with you. Thank you so, so much.

Edited, because my device loves jumping back to the beginning of what I write, keeping anything below the KB from the field of vision.