i dont understand, please explain further. if blahaj mods have ignored misandry, that would be a bad thing. hate is generally regarded as bad, and misandry is hatred of men. therefore, misandry should be generally regarded as bad.

[–] blind3rdeye@lemm.ee 8 points 6 days ago

That's true on face value. The issue is that accusations of misandry are almost always unfounded, and only made as a way to deflect and to attack women. So when people start talking about misandry, that's generally a red flag.

It's similar to how "all lives matter" is definitely a true and good value - but yet it is almost always said as a way to divert support away from vulnerable groups. So although the literal meaning is good, it is fair to assume that people saying it do not have good intentions.

[–] Irelephant@lemm.ee 2 points 6 days ago (1 children)

You are right, but what he is calling misandry is not misandry, and so many people like him think misandry is the bigger problem now.

[–] SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world 1 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Misandry is a huge problem in the space.

It's why I couldn't stand r/TwoXChromosomes anymore.

The amount of people saying we should "kill all men" without being banned is insane, if someone typed the opposite they would instantly get dogpiled and removed.

The blahaj admins have a record of supporting trolls and hateful people, just as long as they use the "right" language.

[–] Irelephant@lemm.ee 3 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I feel like the whole supporting trolls thing is overblown.
They said that you should still use someone's pronouns, even if they are trolling, because it sets the precedent that its okay to ignore someone's pronoun preference.

Unless there is more that I missed.

[–] SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world -2 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

This account was banned on the day they posted the announcement because I had the gall to say that I would not respect the users who used Neopronouns as a joke to invalidate real gender identities. (Dragonfucker and their friends who also showed up to do this)

Ada insta banned me and all the dissenters from the instance, then she stalked some of us on other instances and messeged their admins to get us banned from those if we posted about what happened.

She banned enough users that it affected the 196 community , and the flood of messages from their users who couldn't access 196 anymore is what caused moss to move it to .world in protest.

They're hoping we all just forget and go away. But that place felt like my home after I left reddit, and now I see it's a malicious cess pool of people who want to hurt others like they were hurt, and now I'm a target, I'm an acceptable "other" to hate for dopamine.

[–] AngryCommieKender@lemmy.world 5 points 6 days ago (1 children)

If women have to be misandristic, then I'm quite happy to exclude bigots

[–] Irelephant@lemm.ee 9 points 6 days ago

Would you mind giving me some examples of the misandry? To see what you are talking about.