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Women only trans inclusive This is an inclusive community for all things women. Whether you're here for make up tips, feminism or just friendly chit chat, we've got you covered.

Rules…

  1. Women only… trans women are women, and transphobic or gender critical talk isn’t allowed. Anyone under the trans umbrella (e.g. non-binary, bigender, agender) is free to decide whether a women's community is a good fit for them.
  2. Don’t be a dick. No personal attacks, no aggression, play nice.
  3. Don’t hate on groups, hatefilled talk about groups is not allowed. Ever.
  4. No governmental politics, so no talk of Trump actions etc. We recommend Feminism@beehaw.org for that, but here is an escape from it.
  5. New accounts or users with few comments may have their posts removed to prevent spam and bad-faith participation.

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This is a women-only discussion community. If you do not identify as a women or fall under the umbrella cited in the community sidebar, then please refrain from posting or replying.

We're fighting a losing battle. This is a space where we are very clearly not wanted, and we cannot discuss women's issues without hostility.

Keep it limited to makeup and fashion, I guess, unless you want to be brigaded!

I'm over it. Let the boys have their playground. Lemmy is not a space that is welcoming to women, and, because of that, unless sweeping changes are made, I just don't see myself ever recommending it to any women as a good place to make a community.

I'm not going to contribute to its growth or content any longer. "PROGRESSIVE" space. Garbage. Absolute fucking hypocrisy. I'm so sick of having to explain myself and be made to feel like I need to justify my existence here.

Good luck, sisters. I'm desperate for community, but this feels more like a battleground than it does a home.

We appreciate the sideline supporters who respect the community rules & expectations and are respectful enough to not interject. You are very much loved and respected, brothers. 🫶

EDIT: This community & its moderators have been nothing but kind & respectful to men who post here, and are constantly shit on & downvoted because of it.

I have resorted to being hostile! And I see very little difference in how this is being received compared to them.

My blood pressure too high rn.

EDIT 2: Mods.. I'm sorry for leaving you to find this dumpster fire of a thread! I gotta go to bed and I'm sick of trying to explain things to people who don't actually care or want to understand.

Women: attempt to foster & curate their own community to talk about women-centric issues and experiences without being drowned out by majority voices

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[–] will_steal_your_username@lemmy.blahaj.zone 30 points 3 days ago (3 children)

Might I suggest https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/ ? We have very active mods and admins and we have a pretty good track record of removing misogyny and other forms of bigotry.

[–] LadyButterfly@lazysoci.al 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Thanks for suggesting it! We're in the process of moving to !womensstuff@piefed.blahaj.zone atm and Ada has been amazing. I feel good that we're not gonna get attacked as much

[–] will_steal_your_username@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I'm glad! I'm Linda over there btw!

[–] LadyButterfly@lazysoci.al 4 points 1 day ago

Great see you in the safe zone!

[–] foxglove@lazysoci.al 13 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

I support moving to Blahaj as well ✅

Pros:

  • only upvotes (no more harassment through downvotes)
  • Ada has already banned lots of bad actors from the instance, so moderation will be easier
  • Blahaj's community and instance is already women friendly

Cons:

  • there is probably some work to move another instance (I'm not sure what that would take - or if we would just shutter the lazysoci.al community and start a new one on Blahaj?)
  • Ada's rules can be pretty strict, which means we might lose some control over moderation decisions and discretion; you could view this as a pro or con, part of the reason Blahaj is so welcoming and such a good option is because of Ada's strictness - I only bring it up because of the 196 drama that happened recently where the mods of that community felt they didn't align fully with Ada's approach - so that's just something to get clear on, what are the expectations, and are we comfortable with those expectations
  • Blahaj defederates from some instances and likewise some instances have defederated from Blahaj, so that might impact our users a little bit (again, this could be a pro depending on how you feel about the instances that are defederated from one another; I suspect Hexbear users who like this community would be upset if we moved to Blahaj, because Hexbear defederated from Blahaj).
[–] LadyButterfly@lazysoci.al 8 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Can you link me the admin there? I might get an account there

[–] will_steal_your_username@lemmy.blahaj.zone 14 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Sign up is open! We have an application process that I help with: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/signup

Here's Ada, I dunno how to link her properly: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/u/ada

We also have a matrix and a piefed as well.

[–] LadyButterfly@lazysoci.al 6 points 3 days ago

Great will DM you

[–] otter@lemmy.ca 9 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I have also heard good things about https://beehaw.org/ in that regard (both are excellent instances, I'm not suggesting one over the other)

I hope you and the community here is able to find a place that meets your needs! I enjoy reading and learning from the posts in this community

[–] LadyButterfly@lazysoci.al 6 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Good tip thanks! Your name is adorable btw

[–] otter@lemmy.ca 4 points 3 days ago