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Meds helped me with this a lot. Not the first or even the second medication I tried, maybe the third or fourth? Really good therapy, too. That took maybe another four tries with different therapists for me.
The worst part is being incredibly overwhelmed with anxiety makes it really, really hard to deal with shitty experiences with any of the above. It’s demoralizing when it doesn’t work out and it’s not perfect when it does work out. Still miles better than I was before.
The pharma-go-round is torture, even with a good doctor. With a doctor that doesn't listen, it's unbearable. Which means finding a new doctor and starting again. It's a vicious cycle. Glad you landed on something that works.
Me: “Hey doc I’m depressed and often think of killing myself”
Doc: “Here have some anti depressants”
Me: “this is working much faster then the label suggests, and I don’t think of killing myself multiple times a day, thanks doc!”
Doc: “hmm that’s not right, you should go see a psychiatrist and I’m not prescribing these to you anymore”
Me: “that was strange but doc said to find someone”
Me: “it seems that everyone on the insurance list has a six month wait for new patients”
Me: “the anti depressants have worn off, the anxiety is back in full swing, and I think of killing myself daily… I hope the depression doesn’t kill me before I work up the nerve to schedule and appointment and wait six months before being treated”
Spoiler: I found a different primary care instead with the help of family who didn’t cast me aside like my doctor did. That new doctor put me back on the anti depressants. Life ain’t easy but at least I don’t have suicidal thoughts multiple times a day.
Gotta love a system that is setup to make the people least able to advocate for themselves forced to be the best advocate in the world. It’s like asking the blind if they can see and if they can’t just tell them to find someone else after shooting there seeing eye dog and taking away their walking stick. Then pickachu shocked then they fail.
Ok this is a stupid question, but am I not supposed to relate with the OP? Is it not just a normal part of being human. I get my most frustrated when I get something "wrong" like the OP describes because I didn't prevent what I was trying to prevent. It's not constantly distressing by any means...just when I get an interaction incorrect.
I have been trialing an SSRI for the past several months now. I can't tell if it has at all affected me or I am just on a less externally stressful streak. I am inclined to believe the latter is the case, but idk.
I’m not a psychologist so I can’t tell you anything definitive, but getting very upset over something unexpected happening could be anxiety related. Everyone naturally gets frustrated when things don’t work out, but a lot of mental illnesses are just ‘normal’ things dialed up to 10.
It could also be a lot of stuff other than anxiety! Mental health is super complicated, regardless of what it is (if anything).
Are you in therapy with someone you trust in addition to meds? Because meds helped me a lot, but the therapy was super necessary for me as well.
No, I'm not in therapy. I've tried it on and off before and not really found it useful. Because either the therapist was just interested in chatting and not giving any sort of useful feedback OR they focus on minor, but easily identifiable issues that aren't necessarily why I was seeking out therapy.
I think for me, it just doesn't really work because I don't have one specific, obvious issue. I've known people who have been helped by therapy, but they had one very specific, glaring, obvious problem. One person I know was having near daily panic attacks. Another person I know was assaulted. Another person I know was having hallucinations. So these are all readily identifiable, singular, obvious issues.
I don't have anything like that and often don't even know what to say or what to bring up. It understandably makes it difficult for therapists to figure out what to do, and makes the whole thing just not overly beneficial.