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Hey dad, I just want to hear "I'm proud of you and what you have achieved" from you (discuss.tchncs.de)

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Hey dad, I know that we've not been close for quite some time now. I really hope that at some point that could change, but for right now, all I want is for you to say that you are proud of me. It really hurt when you didn't even aknowledge me getting my A-levels years ago, and that when I got my Bachelor's you told me that all students are stupid.

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[–] diffusive@lemmy.world 4 points 2 weeks ago

I am proud of you!

I am proud of your persistence in front of difficulties and challenges. I am proud of your achievements.

I am proud of you even if I haven’t told you before, I am proud even if I belittled you, even if I fucked up.

My behaviour and response to your efforts has nothing to do with you. Not a justification but it is about with my (generational) trauma and lack of seeing my own achievements. I would apologise for all the pain I caused to you if only my trauma allowed me to see, feel and realise all the pain I caused.

I think that, above all, I am proud that you are not repeating my own journey and you are a much better person than me.