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I’m a 54-year-old man, recently separated from my wife of 31 years - just earlier this month. Honestly, I’m already feeling bored and lonely, so I’ve been considering trying out dating apps (I’ve never used one before). However, my sons (30 and 28) tell me it’s a waste of time and possibly even a scam, and I’ve seen similar opinions online. So I’m not sure what to think.

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[–] expr@programming.dev 9 points 15 hours ago

I met my wife on a dating app in 2019 on Bumble (28 at the time). It can work, but you have to be willing to sift through a lot of bullshit and be patient. You also need to be able to handle rejection and mistreatment (like getting stood up/ghosted). It's ultimately a numbers game and it takes time to find someone that is actually right for you.

I expect it's probably also not nearly as bad for older age groups. At your age, I think people are going to be a lot more likely to be direct and know what they want.

My advice is to try it out. Worst case, you decide it's not for you and try something else.