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Difficult to say as we're demi*. But we'll have a think and get back to you.
Being demi* means we are unlikely to be attracted and want to do things with somebody until we have a strong emotional connection to them. Usually this takes too much time for most people and also unfortunately we usually 'fall' for friends who then don't want to "ruin the relationship" or are sadly monogamous, effectively monogamous, or have hierarchy in their relationships, all of which don't work for us.
However, we have also been considering if some or all of us are aplatonic recently as we don't really 'get' relationship labels for one, and want to be close to most people we feel safe and start to gain closeness to in a myriad of ways. These arbitrary assumed lines don't work for us and we prefer to ask what is okay and what is not, either asking what we can expect to be okay or not forever in the relationhsip or each time, though we have found things change so we prefer to do the latter mostly but if something is a hard rule or limit we do accept and respect that.