This is a women-only discussion community. If you do not identify as a women or fall under the umbrella cited in the community sidebar, then please refrain from posting or replying.
We're fighting a losing battle. This is a space where we are very clearly not wanted, and we cannot discuss women's issues without hostility.
Keep it limited to makeup and fashion, I guess, unless you want to be brigaded!
I'm over it. Let the boys have their playground. Lemmy is not a space that is welcoming to women, and, because of that, unless sweeping changes are made, I just don't see myself ever recommending it to any women as a good place to make a community.
I'm not going to contribute to its growth or content any longer. "PROGRESSIVE" space. Garbage. Absolute fucking hypocrisy. I'm so sick of having to explain myself and be made to feel like I need to justify my existence here.
Good luck, sisters. I'm desperate for community, but this feels more like a battleground than it does a home.
We appreciate the sideline supporters who respect the community rules & expectations and are respectful enough to not interject. You are very much loved and respected, brothers. 🫶
EDIT: This community & its moderators have been nothing but kind & respectful to men who post here, and are constantly shit on & downvoted because of it.
I have resorted to being hostile! And I see very little difference in how this is being received compared to them.
My blood pressure too high rn.
EDIT 2: Mods.. I'm sorry for leaving you to find this dumpster fire of a thread! I gotta go to bed and I'm sick of trying to explain things to people who don't actually care or want to understand.
Women: attempt to foster & curate their own community to talk about women-centric issues and experiences without being drowned out by majority voices
The rest of Lemmy:
I know it may seem redundant to suggest such, seeing as there is already a women only community here, but if the kind of community you're looking for doesn't exist, why try to steer people away from a potential place where that kind of community can grow?
I think it's personally counterproductive to tell people "don't get on lemmy, it's not for women." Is it not? Seeing as it is, this post describes wanting to see a more accepting community on lemmy, so why eliminate any potential for that?
Sorry if asking questions only further your frustration, it's not my intention, but i feel like since this has been posted, lemmy has gotten better for us, i mean i'm subbed to a few women only communities too, and to my limited perspective, it seems like everyone is supportive of eachother.
As for the men not listening or understanding us, well, what would you expect out of someone who doesn't live our shared experience? I know it's a bad thing to say, a bad thing to expect, but it's realistic.
They don't know us like we do eachother, that's something a lot of people forget when trying to explain your life to someone who's lived an entirely different one. Not everyone will understand, and that's okay, don't let it get to you.
The issue isn't "men not listening or understanding us", it's "men not respecting basic requests of common courtesy and decency like ... not commenting in a women's only space".
At least that's the part that gets me extremely salty right now.
All i can say is that it can only really take time for the guys to truly understand, infact, some may be completely apathetical beacause well, they got their own lives right? I mean, it's one argument i've heard for avoiding the discourse, not much you can do about someone not listening except ignore them.
Disceplene obviously doesn't work very well on the internet, hell, even in real life it's hard to truly describe why something such as this is important to understand.
But then again, we're on the internet, not everyone here is normal perse, which is also another reason not to expect a respecting behaviour, that's the internet!
Which is fucked up to consider being a reality, i know, but an issue such as this doesn't go away until the time is right in the social atmosphere, unless say, we go completely radfem and start organizing safespaces in places where we are prominent.
I don't think that's really possible on the internet where anyone can be anyone, so the only other solution would be to create a locked off community that works off a vouching process or something similar to ID. I wouldn't be for it personally, but it's worth considering if the problem really is that detrimental to the community.
I'm personally not bothered, i mean i expect this kind of behaviour considering the fact that 1. Men, and 2. You're on the internet. Not saying this post is invalid, it's totally valid, it's just an unrealistic expecation from a certain statistic of people who tend to be quite apathetic. (burn me alive.)