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cross-posted from: https://reddthat.com/post/46807163

Since this post posted in /c/womensstuff, a community that prohibits male participation, showed up on the front page of All I'm cross-posting it to a space where men can chime in and answer/discuss it freely.

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[–] TheAnti@lemmy.dbzer0.com 100 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Nope, it’s pretty easy to navigate work and life in general while actively not being a shit head.

I’ve unfortunately been a part of workplaces where people have complained about this type of thing. Typically it’s because they weren’t allowed to make demeaning jokes targeted at a specific class/race/gender/etc.

[–] Canconda@lemmy.ca 23 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

class/race/gender/etc

For whatever reason there's a subset of men that genuinely believe you can bully a woman into having sex with you. It's not exclusive to any generation either. And they're fuckin mad cuz they genuinely think they're being singled out and that this is the strategy actually works for other men.

[–] dylanmorgan@slrpnk.net 9 points 1 week ago

As men I think it’s our job to disabuse those people of that notion. Using compassion first, but then mockery and whatever else is at hand.

[–] P00ptart@lemmy.world 0 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Unfortunately in a lot of situations, they're right. It's called rape, even if done just with words. We need to beat those words out of those men.

[–] Feathercrown@lemmy.world 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

It’s called rape, even if done just with words

Don't downplay the severity of actual rape by comparing it to insults please

[–] P00ptart@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

That's not what I was doing. I'm saying using your words to pressure or coerce a woman into sex is also rape.

[–] Feathercrown@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago

It still seems unwise to conflate those two things