I read a comment recently explaining that a child's nervous system cannot differentiate between pain or threat of pain inflicted due to discipline or pain or threat of pain inflicted due to abuse and honestly that changed something in my head. Like. It doesn't matter if the kid knows they have done something wrong and understands that there's a punishment as a result. The nervous system cannot tell the difference.

[–] gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.de 10 points 1 week ago (1 children)

i heard a great phrase that goes "i continue to cut but it's still too short"

i feel it's an abstract but highly accurate metaphor for how many raise their children. they're trying to be even more strict to make the child behave well, but that inflicts even more damage on the child and the child misbehaves even more.

[–] moonbunny@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 week ago

That’s a pretty good metaphor