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I never heard of any man who will go away for hours or days? This is honestly messed up. But the way people talk about this sounds like it's normal.
I feel like this person is talking about a coworker who didn't come to work for a few days and doesn't wanna talk about why. I've been this coworker before, so maybe I'm just projecting.
I'm just here for a paycheck, not to share my trauma with coworkers I barely know.
But, but, we're family here at insert business.
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Oh I understand now.
I was confused by the post because it made it sound like men do this at home.
Maybe not days, but hours? That's not really all that weird. Depending on the context, of course. But needing a few hours alone to process something is pretty reasonable imo.
I've done it. When I'm emotional I just want to be alone. Being around people doesn't help at all. Hell I've taken a week of PTO just to stay home by myself and not have to talk to anyone.
When I was younger, I worked second shift. I used to get off work at midnight and drive 5 hours north to watch the sun rise on the beach.
Didn't matter the weather or time of year, If I was stressing and didn't want to go home to my empty lonely apartment, I'd take a short road trip as far as I could go. I miss doing it tbh.
I never told anyone about it, no one ever asked.
My friendships are the kind where we won't see eachother for six months then hang out like not a day has passed.
Pretty much. See each other 15 times in a decade. Easily best pal over there.
Yeah it's pretty normal bachelor stuff.
Women are obsessed with their own and each other's safety in a way that men just aren't. I mean, the girl I was dating when I was 25, her mother still forbade her from driving on certain sections of busy highways. I had full run of the US highway system at 17.
Women will get pretty close with their roommates, exchange contact info, and will tell each other detailed plans on where they're going, memorize what they're wearing, fill out missing persons forms in advance, etc. When I went back to college in my late 20's, I got a room with three other guys, and if you asked me the day I moved out what their names were I think I would have struggled to tell you. They didn't involve me in their lives and I didn't them.
The times I stayed overnight with a girl? Weekends visiting my parents? That time I wandered off into the Uwharries for three days? They probably didn't notice I was gone. I passed one of my roommates in the hall one day and he mentioned he had just gotten back from Nigeria. I didn't notice he had left the country for two weeks.