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How to overcome lazyness and develop habits? (sopuli.xyz)

submitted 1 week ago by gegil@sopuli.xyz to c/adhd@lemmy.world

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I have a problem that i cant focus on my tasks for a long time. I cant do my work for long time per day, neither do it periodically every day.

I know that to develop habits of doing certain work every day, i need twenty one days, but i lose interest to doing my work and just becoming bored of it in two weeks maximum, which is not enough time to develop habits.

Another thing that my lazyness does to me, is that i cant keep my focus on one big task for long time, like several hours. I can keep working on this task for half of hour or a one hour at most, until i just get bored of it, and dont want to do it until next day.

This problem apllies to any tasks i need or want to do, like doing sports, home work, programming and other work, and this is what keeps me from getting a job, because i just cant work full work day every day, especially if i cant even develop a small program for home work for more than two hours.

Which advise can you recommend to get rid of the lazyness, and actually keep focus on the work and develop new habits?

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[–] gegil@sopuli.xyz 3 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

This comment is good, but i have several questions. I cant get treatment, because after getting to psychiatrist and taking a psychology test, they said that they did not indentified adhd in me. Thats why i asked my question here, because there is no "laziness" community where i could ask it, and this community is the most related to the situation i have. And lastly, if it is not the laziness and not adhd, than what is it?

[–] shneancy@lemmy.world 8 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

it took me 3 different doctors to finally get a diagnosis. first two were neurotypical, the last one also had adhd himself. adhd is often misunderstood, and the metrics for diagnosing it completely ignore individuals that have figured out their own coping mechanisms or are more intelligent than most.

for example a big part of the diagnosis is a binary - did you have trouble at school? if you answer "well no i didn't, but i also never studied or did homework, everything was just kind of easy. the subjects i disliked went very poorly though. i still passed but my range of grades went from highest to lowest yet still passing. i had some trouble with higher education when i was expected to study on my own though, i got my degree but seemed to struggle much more than my peers" all the non-neurodivergent doctor (or god forbid, a test) will hear will be "well no"

obviously i don't know you personally, nor do i know what test you took or what doctor you went to. but if you still suspect you have adhd despite being told "nah" by one doctor, then i'd encourage you to seek a second opinion, ideally with a doctor who has adhd themself, so the diagnosis is a simple vibe check instead of mind numbing tests that only account for "well duh" kind of adhd