When I was younger I defined myself by the things I liked, and others similarly, you just start to see more depth and wisdom the more years you're lucky enough to kick around, in this planet, I think. And then you start to see, mostly the stuff people like is just funneled coping mechanisms. I can now tell you what peoples traumas are, by what they like. (lol)

[–] i_love_FFT@jlai.lu 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I like skiing and video games. What are my traumas?

[–] LavaPlanet@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

There was a lol! I wasn't being serious! Why do I say things. I should just stop doing that.

[–] i_love_FFT@jlai.lu 2 points 1 day ago

Haha, don't worry I was also joking!

I have the same trauma where I claim I can do stuff but end up with too many responsibilities.

[–] BaroqueInMind@piefed.social 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

I like extremely violent realistically gory video games, firearms (I own several modern rifles and handguns), and Zen Buddhism (meditation and mindfulness). What are my traumas?

[–] chocrates@piefed.world 2 points 1 day ago

I think they got distracted

[–] LavaPlanet@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I feel like that's one of those things that, even if you could do it, you shouldn't. I wasn't really being serious, so much.

If you're sure you want me to attempt to play mind reader, just for funsies, I suppose I could. My trauma is I had to grow up guessing what everyone was gunna do, because none of the adults were even a tiny bit safe, so I got sort of a little bit good at the guessing game, sort of. I've never tested it on internet strangers though.

That said, my dating history would completely oppose previous statements... So maybe I just think I'm a little bit good at something, but really I suck.

[–] BaroqueInMind@piefed.social 1 points 19 hours ago

Just answer the question lol, damn

[–] AnarchistArtificer@slrpnk.net 3 points 1 day ago

I wouldn't say "more broken". There's a lot of diversity across the ADHD community, especially when we account for how other life circumstances intersect with ADHD. For me, for example, I find that the vast majority of what I typically consider to be "ADHD-related brokenness" is actually probably more linked to past trauma.

I think it's important to recognise that there is no universal ADHD experience because in many respects, we're still figuring out what the hell ADHD actually is ("we" here meaning humanity); Science plays a big part in increasing our understanding of ADHD, but so does community knowledge (which includes memes)