Oh wow. I thought only I had an issue with this.
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For message received, I use the press and hold emoji reactions, "tapbacks" I think they're called.
For some reason I associate an actual "๐๐ผ" text as being less nice? Because now you took the time to open your keyboard and find the thumbs up. Like equivalent to texting "K." Lol
Ya, a react like sure that's fine, but a response, I just always think like if I said something to you in real life and you just replied ๐... that's rude as fuck lol
It really depends on the age of the sender.
30s and younger: Fairly dismissive response. Not outright insulting but pretty rude.
40s and older: genuinely meant as an earnest acknowledgement of your message.
I can respond with ๐ and if people don't like it then next time I probably wouldn't respond to there texts with anything at all. The thumbs up IS me putting in the extra effort to acknowledge & respond to received messages. Also, it was my avatar on my previous college online profile.
Just try to remember that there is almost always more than one way to interpret a body of text even if it's a single character.
No big deal at all
It depend on the context/group.
At work, no biggie, it just tells me that you acknowledge my message and currently have nothing useful to add.
With my friends, who usually heavily rely on emojis and "oldtimey smileys" (like xD or y.y)? Ya, unless you completely eminate happiness and friendship, I'm concerned about your mood / standing with me.
Just make sure you don't use it, or fail to clarify and confirm the meaning of its use, in a business setting or you could be in some trouble.
Yes. It frequently comes across as passive aggressive or as if the person doesn't care.
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The context will be more telling of if it's actually rude or not. There's a lot of chat software nowadays where you can "react" to a message with a thumbs up and people use it to acknowledge what was said.
I totally get you! Whenever I feel that it could be interpreted that way, I don't send the thumbs-up. I do use it though, but I try to be careful to avoid that misinterpretation.
Most of the time, yes.
Sounds like a you problem. An emoji is just that, context of usage defines it's meaning.
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Definitely is a rude reply. Zero effort and sarcastic.
I think depending on your generation and language you speak it can have different meanings.
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