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[–] ef9357@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

I’ve never met a happy mother. Happy father? Absolutely, but they are not the care givers so it’s easy for them to be happy.

[–] tacosanonymous@lemm.ee 9 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I trust that she doesn’t know any.

And I think decent human beings are happy with their kids. They just aren’t happy with the stress and extra workload, especially with all the shit going on in our society.

Not all decent people have or want children.

[–] sunzu2@thebrainbin.org 6 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I think more people would enjoy their kids and would actually have kids if social economic conditions didnt deteriorate to the current level of pathetic across "developed" world

Being young adult or even middle aged millennial is kinda of joke adulthood. You are old enough to qualify but majority of people are border line living college style

[–] Flocklesscrow@lemm.ee 2 points 1 day ago

The entirety of the 90s was propaganda for a future that crumpled the minute we stepped foot into adulthood. So...

[–] rhacer@lemmy.world 11 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Three sons all grown one daughter in high school.

I'm not very good at very many things, but one thing I'm positive I'm good at is being a dad.

Yes, I'm a happy parent.

[–] what_was_not_said@lemmy.world -2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Are you lost? This is a community for those who are childfree.

[–] rhacer@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago

A question was asked and I answered. How could anyone with no children, happy or unhappy, answer the question that was posed?

[–] BoulevardBlvd@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 3 days ago (2 children)

That's not what she meant. It's not "are you happy being a parent?" It's "are you, a person who happens to be a parent, genuinely happy?"

[–] MiniMoose4Free@lemm.ee 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)

And their answer was yes no matter how many times you move the goal post.

[–] BoulevardBlvd@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Not my question, not moving goalposts. I've got no dog in this race my dude. I was just explaining that they didn't read the question right. If that's still their answer then great! Good for them! But I'd love to hear their actual answer to the actual question chappel roan posed from their own "lips" thank you very much.

[–] Onomatopoeia@lemmy.cafe -5 points 3 days ago (1 children)

They read the question just fine, YOU just didn't like their answer, and are looking for ways to show how wrong they are.

Nope. They literally didn't read it correctly. You're projecting hard here dude. Just because this situation implies you also have terrible reading comprehension skills doesn't mean you have to take it so personally.

Seriously, I was just trying to help him out by clearing up the miscommunication. I truly don't care one way or the other what people do with their own genitals

[–] Onomatopoeia@lemmy.cafe -5 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Hahahaha, you're so biased.

[–] BoulevardBlvd@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

Not op bro. I was just letting them know they misread the prompt. I'd love for them to be happy as a person having chosen to have children. Being miserable sucks! I hope that's not the case, but I don't know if it is or not because op pointedly did not address it

There's a huge difference between "I am happy with my choice" and "I am happy in my life"

[–] Onomatopoeia@lemmy.cafe -3 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Keep on willfully misreading and mischaracterising what was said to agree with your agenda.

That's really effective in life, so I hear.

Regardless of what the answer is, you are definitely not happy. Seriously my dude. Why are you being so aggressive? Miscommunication happens all the time. It isn't this big of a deal

I have no agenda. Unlike you I don't give a fuck what someone else decides to do with their life. I'm not misreading or mischaracterizing anything. Chappelle roan has been astoundingly clear on her opinion. You're just not listening, and arguing against what you feel like arguing against. You're angry at a strawman and it's preventing you from actually talking about the topic seriously

[–] sunzu2@thebrainbin.org 4 points 3 days ago

Sounds like a grifter seeking attention

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 2 points 3 days ago

I know some. My former IT guys both adored their kids. The one quit specifically to get a wfh job so he could spend more time with them.

[–] viking@infosec.pub 1 points 3 days ago

I don't know who that is, and I do know happy parents. So, as childfree as I am, I disagree with this statement.

[–] Bubbaonthebeach@lemmy.ca 1 points 3 days ago

Hmmm. I am of the generation to be her parent. It wasn't as hellish for us although almost all new parents are sleep deprived. The real difference? We didn't have personal computers, the internet, cell phones when our kids were babies and toddlers. The amount of time being connected takes up and the amount of time people feel they must be online is incredible. It is the difference between getting a night's sleep while also juggling job and kids and being permanently exhausted. In general, I think the pre-internet generations were much happier. It hasn't been the boon to our lives that we had hoped for. However I do know some young parents who are currently loving parenthood and do seem to be happy, just a bit tired.

[–] Onomatopoeia@lemmy.cafe -2 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I guess she's interviewed every parent in the world?

Absolutes like this are always wrong, absolutely.

[–] WoodScientist@sh.itjust.works 5 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Professional contrarians are always wrong, absolutely.

[–] Onomatopoeia@lemmy.cafe 2 points 3 days ago

Lol, well played, well played