I worried for a long time that I was gonna be single forever. The was dumb for 2 reasons.
1, When I finally dated somebody for the first time, I quickly realized that actually no, a relationship was not necessary for maintaining my self worth, and
2, Turns out if I just go for it enough times, eventually I'll make the shot. In fact, the confidence I now have in being okay being single makes it easier to find relationships because I'm not pushing my entire self worth on somebody when I ask them out which makes them more comfortable and therefore more likely to say yes.
this post was submitted on 22 Jun 2025
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The first time.
I'll just leave it at that.
Would he ever propose.
The fucker knew a Halloween card was the perfect Trojan Horse and was waiting for the perfect moment.
That I was too high maintenance. I’m disabled and always been in the position of “be grateful for what you have and don’t you dare ask for anything” taking up space was a sin I could never be absolved from. In reality I’m incredibly self sufficient, I’m competent, I’m capable, I don’t ask for much and what I do ask for is both justified and reasonable. Being taught asking for even the most basic things made me an ungrateful bitch sent me on and endless pursuit of how to best disappear 🫥 but I’ve realized I’m absolutely not “high maintenance” I’m a completely normal person who needs totally normal amounts of support, affection, care, etc and if I occasionally want or need more of something that doesn’t make me an ungrateful bitch.
Not everyone knows how to drive a super car, it’s not the cars fault, the car isn’t doing anything wrong if the driver can’t handle something so powerful