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I'm just a bi guy. I found out pretty recently

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[–] arcticpiecitylights@beehaw.org 5 points 2 years ago

Straight cis guy here. Doing my best to live as an ally in the ways that I can. Happy to be here with all of you!

[–] StrahdVonZarovich@beehaw.org 5 points 2 years ago

Although I can see the uses in making up terms to define who you're attracted to, I dont like the idea of putting yourself in a box. Ive had straight friends get really confused when they find themselves attracted to the same sex, and gay friends get really confused when they find themselves attracted to the opposite sex. When you "join" a sexuality you dont sign a contract or anything. A while ago I figured out I was bisexual. It was pretty great for a while, cause I was able to figure myself out and feel more free because of it. I didnt feel guilty for having certain thoughts. However, eventually I started to have some problems with the label itself. In this day and age, what even is a man or a woman? Ive found myself being attracted to people that dont identify as either gender. And isnt gender supposed to be a societal construct? In that case, why do we care so much about it in the case of define sexual identities? Im no philosopher or social scientist, so I may just be talking out of my own ass here so forgive my ignorance. Nowadays whenever some asks me my sexuality (which by the way is a very weird thing to ask people you just met in real life) I always say "on a case by case basis".

[–] jerkface@lemmy.ca 4 points 2 years ago (2 children)

I like to have sex with people I'm attracted to. Sometimes other people, too.

[–] foopo666@sopuli.xyz 6 points 2 years ago

I, too, identify as a slut

[–] StrahdVonZarovich@beehaw.org 1 points 2 years ago

Thats what im saying dude

[–] Wilshire@beehaw.org 4 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

$20 is $20

/s

[–] warrier120@beehaw.org 4 points 2 years ago

Bi. The bi-cycle fucks with me a lot though.

[–] xangria@lemmy.ml 3 points 2 years ago
[–] JCPhoenix@beehaw.org 3 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Bi guy. Though I've never been with a guy, only women.

How u doin'? Oo

[–] Bicyclejohn@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 years ago

Opposite here, I'm bi but only ever been with a guy. I'm still with him, just worried about him

[–] thilo@lemmy.ml 3 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Honest question: Why do you feel the need to categorize your sexuality? I myself am 40 years old and still don't know which category I fit in. What need/itch do you fill by naming this part of your persona?

[–] noodlejetski@beehaw.org 3 points 2 years ago
[–] hot_bowl_cold_soup@beehaw.org 2 points 2 years ago

Straight ally. Happy pride month!

[–] agonizingnose@lemmy.nz 2 points 2 years ago

Actually not sure ay. I've been intimate with a big variety of people, but I still feel odd trying to label it. I definately lean closer to straight than anything else, but i dunno

[–] iam8bitwolf@beehaw.org 2 points 2 years ago

Asexual, with no other qualifiers i.e. not demi or aego etc. I figured this all out when I was like 11 and, after over a decade, still hasn't changed

[–] DEADBEEF@beehaw.org 2 points 2 years ago

Another bi guy here :)

[–] cornballdefense@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Bi cis woman, but I ended up marrying my hs sweetheart so only really been in het relationships. No regrets, he's my favorite human!

[–] Jeroen@lemmy.cock.social 4 points 2 years ago

Some people forget that even if you're in a heterosexual or gay relationship, you can still be bi. Family members who I've told I'm bi suddenly started to think I'm gay, just because I was in a gay relationship.

[–] Landmammals@lemmynsfw.com 2 points 2 years ago

I'm only attracted to women, but I have an erogenous zone up my butt and I love getting blowjobs.

It's complicated.

[–] sefene@beehaw.org 1 points 2 years ago

Straight trans woman, my boyfriend is super loving <3

[–] arthur@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 years ago

Pan/Bi but strait passing... Mostly.

[–] BobQuasit@beehaw.org 1 points 2 years ago

Demi cis. I'm tempted to add "doomed", but I won't.

[–] EponymousBosh@beehaw.org 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I'm like a Kinsey 1.5. Just bi enough to be uncomfortable with the "straight" label but too hetero to feel comfortable claiming "bi." It's great 🙃

[–] vgnbsxl@feddit.de 1 points 2 years ago

Not being sure about being bi is sooo bi culture. Embrace the bi my bi friend <3

[–] nd_nb@beehaw.org 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I think the concept of sexuality needs to go away, tbh. I'm not straight because I am attracted to EVERY guy. And I'm not a lesbian because I am attracted to every woman. So what am I saying when I say that I am straight or gay?

The info I am giving then is who I am NOT attracted to. If I say I'm straight, I'm just saying 'I'm not attracted to women'. I'm not saying 'I'm attracted to every man.'

So I think the concept of sexuality is pretty stupid and everyone should just like whoever they like. It creates a lot of confusion otherwise, with straight and gay people worrying about whether they're 'doing sexuality right'. It's nonsense. Bin it.

[–] Andreas 5 points 2 years ago

I'm confused as to where you got the idea that having a sexuality means you're attracted to every single person of a certain sex. It just means that you can be attracted to people of that sex. I'm bisexual but I have standards, I'm not attracted to every person on earth. Sexuality categorization is useful to quickly contextualize discussions about sex and relationships in this world where heterosexual is assumed to be the default unless explicitly specified otherwise. Doing away with sexuality would only add confusion and wasted time. For example: looking for advice in gay dating but receiving advice about straight dating (that doesn't apply to gay dating because the cultures and dynamics are very different) when there's no terminology to tell them apart.

[–] merjalane@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (5 children)

Omnisexual, tho I usually call myself "Bi" when talking to others about it, as few people know about omnisexuality

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[–] Lycan@beehaw.org 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I'm gay. Nothing special lol

[–] Elyssa_Greensley@beehaw.org 3 points 2 years ago

You are special to someone.

[–] Poot@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 years ago

Just boring old gay guy here. A dude who likes dudes.

[–] spoonful@beehaw.org 1 points 2 years ago

Straight male though I'd like to think I'm pansexual. I honestly don't see why anyone could not be compatible with someone just because of biological gender in an ideal world. People are pretty awesome.

[–] Gormadt@beehaw.org 1 points 2 years ago

Polyamorous biromantic demisexual

to answer the age old question, "da fuck is that?"

I'm into being in relationships with multiple people of multiple genders and I've got to really get to know someone before any sexual attraction starts.

Most of the time when people ask I just answer with Bi as the people asking are usually not interested in the nitty gritty details.

[–] Lowbird@beehaw.org 1 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

I'm ace. It took me a long-ass time to figure that out, as often happens. I thought I was bi for a while because 0 = 0 lol.

Edit: also not aro, and nonbinary (agender, mostly), since people are specifying this as well.

[–] darylsun@beehaw.org 1 points 2 years ago

Ace! I think people are hot, but I don't want to do the nasty with any of them.

[–] Monthly_Vent@beehaw.org 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

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[–] IndeterminateName@beehaw.org 1 points 2 years ago

passes the garlic bread

[–] Infinitybiscuit@beehaw.org 1 points 2 years ago
[–] Kot_Box@beehaw.org 1 points 2 years ago

I'm part of the Anxious Bisexual Nerd Team!

[–] Abel@lemmy.nerdcore.social 1 points 2 years ago

I don't know but I have been thinking I'm hetero :D

I'm trans btw

[–] SweetCitrusBuzz@beehaw.org 1 points 8 months ago
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