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[–] AnnaFrankfurter@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 year ago

I think no matter what we do most of the things are outoff our control

[–] deaf_fish@lemm.ee 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I wish I knew why small talk is important and why the example in the post is a problem. It would be helpful if someone could explain it.

[–] CameronDev@programming.dev 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

If you date someone for 2+ years, at that point, you know what their opinions are on all meaningful topics. All there is left to discuss is small talk: how's your day, did you like the TV show, etc.

Unless your both happy sitting in silence, you'll probably drift apart.

Edit: I think the issue a lot of people here have is not small talk itself, its small talk with strangers. Asking a loved one about their day is small talk, but that doesn't diminish its value.

[–] deaf_fish@lemm.ee 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I've been married for 7 years. I do ask my wife how her day was, but that is because I actually care. How can people do this with strangers? Is it just assumed everyone is asking everyone else how their day was even if they don't actually care?

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[–] weeeeum@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

You need small talk to find the big talk.

Small talk stinks
Small talk stinks
See the young man in his new gown
Talking up to his bouffant drag
He says he loves you with flowers
Something that he's never had
A sentence should be like a serpent
Quick with a sting in its tail
        -bauhaus, Small Talk Stinks
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