For right now lemm.ee is my home! I was just looking at the other instances to see if their ideologies better fit mine.
To be clear, I self-identify as liberal, and i am trans. I noticed the c/traaaaa... community on Hexbear seems to be the biggest of the bunch, and that was my favorite sub on reddit, so I started looking in to Hexbear
It's a shame that many instancss defederated with Hexbear and vice-versa... definitely makes having alt accounts necessary so users can get the most out of Lemmy