You're right that it's hard, and that it's kind of a "put on your own mask before helping others" scenario. If you're just barely holding on, you're right, you may not be well-positioned to provide help. And in that case, the critical priority for you should be to get out of that situation first. Easier said than done, I know.
But, take heart! There are skills and habits and such you can build along the way that play to your own strengths and which will be useful if things get truly gnarly. Starting on them several years ago would have been better than starting on them today, but starting today is better than starting tomorrow.
I had this big exhaustive list (in a Lemmy comment thread) of things to pick and choose from to try to slowly get better at - it's since been deleted! I'm working on tracking that down so I can provide it here, it was seriously useful (and heartening, in the way it shows how we can all contribute due to the wide range of things needed).
You're right that it's hard, and that it's kind of a "put on your own mask before helping others" scenario. If you're just barely holding on, you're right, you may not be well-positioned to provide help. And in that case, the critical priority for you should be to get out of that situation first. Easier said than done, I know.
But, take heart! There are skills and habits and such you can build along the way that play to your own strengths and which will be useful if things get truly gnarly. Starting on them several years ago would have been better than starting on them today, but starting today is better than starting tomorrow.
I had this big exhaustive list (in a Lemmy comment thread) of things to pick and choose from to try to slowly get better at - it's since been deleted! I'm working on tracking that down so I can provide it here, it was seriously useful (and heartening, in the way it shows how we can all contribute due to the wide range of things needed).