federating with .ml help other instances grow when people are kicked out of .ml? How does federating with them provide any benefit when people are kicked out of .ml? There's no federated 'transfer your account' option.
There doesn't seem to be as much or the same conflicts with .ml users in communities outside .ml versus .ml communities having overbearing mods that ban people. So the federation isn't so much the issue there. I much prefer the trend of people going to and making communities on instances where the powertrippers aren't tripping as opposed to calling for defederation. Federation with users across the largest instances is a good thing.
Defederating means a lot of people would have to make new accounts anyway. Grad and hexbear are niche enough that defederating is closer to banning a group of users. .ml would excise a whole lot of users who aren't even the tankies of concern.
I dunno, 3 makes wild accusations about implied meanings. Seems suspect.