bakachu

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[–] bakachu@lemm.ee 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I share that sentiment- that poor person. To society's credit, I have not yet seen any posts or articles with an image or their identity. Hopefully it stays that way.

[–] bakachu@lemm.ee 5 points 1 year ago

Agree, would rather my money went to a local firm with an actual person who I can consistently contact for questions. Did this a few years ago for an especially challenging tax year. Absolutely 0 regrets - if I had done it via self-serve software I would've missed out on quite a few unknown tax assists that the accountant found.

[–] bakachu@lemm.ee 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Huh I did not know this. CK was my backup to FT USA but that is indeed some sneaky shit. I'm scared now for FT USA - PLEASE DO NOT SELL OUT.

[–] bakachu@lemm.ee 18 points 1 year ago

I use TurboTax ina free way - calculate all my taxes using their amazing software and then when the numbers match on the free site, I file there. That's the beauty of TurboTax that you can exploit. I feel it's fair game knowing they make the software open and then trick people who have calculated everything out to pay a ridiculous amount for the filing fee at the end.

[–] bakachu@lemm.ee 2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

This may be overly cautious, but I recommend making a log and gathering evidence for if/when this escalates further. Keep in mind that at 17 she is still a minor, so there is an additional burden of responsibility that is imposed upon you and your partner in every interaction you have with her. Get dates, times, and statements from your brother and partner on the 2 occasions she entered your home and slept over, in particular. The last thing you want to deal with is a false accusation from this kid who does not seem to regard nor respect your boundaries, which you have set clear at this point. Get security cameras. Document everything ongoing. I personally wouldn't block her texts for now.

Next step is to inform her legal guardians, in this case her parents, that she is not welcome on your property nor to contact you or your partner. I would do it in some form of writing - email or text, again for the sake of evidence. At this point the responsibility for her actions shifts to them. If she is on your doorstep contact them directly and expect immediate action. You can also inform them that you have concerns over her mental health.

Once these are done, you have real actionable choices that you can take. I know it sucks having to feel like a bad guy in this scenario, but it sounds like she needs professional help. Her parents are the ones to blame here.