throwaway789

joined 1 week ago

Awwww, are you doing okay?

 

He was more focused on what I could provide and do for him than having an actual, loving relationship that went both ways. I have enough worth and I surely don't deserve that. Played with me, strung me along, didn't want me yet still kept me around?? My friends all say that's messed up, I should listen to the advice and just ignore him like I'm doing. people are right. He is not my friend, I'm just his pet to keep around when it's convenient.

 

Hi, I identify as a gay man for now and I feel disconnected from womanhood, but my body is female. I want to know how normal it is for women not to be comfortable in their own bodies and wish they had bodily characteristics of a born male. I've felt that way ever since I was eight or seven, so it got me thinking that I could have known I was a boy even then.

I wanted to cut my hair short because it looked more boyish and I hated being called "girly". I wanted to be accepted among the guys and I considered myself just a "tomboy".

[–] throwaway789@lemmings.world 2 points 5 days ago

Thank you, I get it

[–] throwaway789@lemmings.world 1 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I completely agree, no he doesn't do it later and I couldn't endure it apparently, because we broke up

[–] throwaway789@lemmings.world 5 points 6 days ago (2 children)

Thanks so much, he didn't even seem that upset when we broke up

 

I decided to just stay friends with him after everything: his mental health plus him not caring enough about what I like and saying stuff about how my interests sucked, wanting me to do stuff for him (buy/make gifts, watch his shows) but would never do that for me, etc. so now I’m a single Pringle boi!

 

I decided it would be better if we stayed friends, though I would still support and help him. Maybe if he starts liking my interests and becomes more mentally well, we could date again but for now IDK.

[–] throwaway789@lemmings.world 1 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I wish I could make him an appointment, but we’re long distance sadly. He thinks therapy or anything won’t help :(

[–] throwaway789@lemmings.world 1 points 6 days ago (6 children)

Thank you. He says nothing will help his depression, first he needs to leave his abusive dad.

He's usually like "I'll do it later" or "I never liked that show, it's stupid because I'm older than you." I'll try seeing how he is later on or find someone else.

 

It makes me (18m) really sad when my bf (24m) is depressed. Sometimes he runs hot and cold and says he doesn't know if we should break up or not but then he says it feels right to be with me and he wants to stay.

Sometimes he doesn't like doing stuff for me even when I do stuff for him or doesn't like my interests much but wants me to like his. However, he can't do much of anything or talk right now because he's very depressed.

He's not like himself, and it's sort of making me feel depressed. How can I help without making myself extremely depressed too? I feel like I understand why he stopped doing certain stuff, and he says he can't show love for me like he could for his exes. He said it felt right to be my bf but that he didn't know if we should date.

 

Okay, so I found out that my boyfriend went from loving to indecisive and seemingly distant. I feel bad, though, because it turns out that while he says he wants me and he can handle a relationship, he's actually badly depressed to the point where he can't do much and can't talk to me much. He is always doing bad and extremely upset and low.

He says he can't say why he's upset, but that's okay

[–] throwaway789@lemmings.world 2 points 1 week ago

Thank you so much. 🫂

 

I hate this. So I (18FtM) have a BF (24M) and he has been showing me less affection and not really taking an interest in my things or what I want to do. He doesn't really like my interests but it's okay, we've been getting along. Sometimes, he doesn't even know if he wants to be with me, but it's okay.

Meanwhile, I just met this guy (19M) earlier today and we're really hitting it off, although we just met. I'm starting to like him and IDK what to do because I like my boyfriend too and probably like him more.

 

Yesterday, my boyfriend was very stressed and was going through a lot of family issues. I told him I couldn't stay for long. My family is strict and wanted me to go to bed and not be on my phone. My boyfriend then was asking where I was and why I was offline and not responding. He must not have seen my message but I had to go. And I feel so bad that he didn't read it and that I had to go, I feel like such an awful person for not being able to help. I know I suck, I know I just could've snuck it, but I just want someone to listen. Not criticism, please, like many people have said.

[–] throwaway789@lemmings.world 1 points 1 week ago

He doesn’t know if he’s ready for a relationship in general, thank you so much

 

I made a throwaway so as not to clutter my main. I'm a bit sad but he doesn't want me to feel bad. He keeps me so he's not lonely, but he doesn't know whether or not he wants to break up and just strings me along, I guess. "I love you" one minute, "let's break up" the next. My mom says I'm being played, IDK.

I don't even know what we are because he keeps trying to walk out of the conversation and he doesn't care about my interests or what I want. I've tried talking to him, he says it's the way he is. Also, he gives me words of affirmation but apparently my brain says that's not enough. I don't know anymore. Just venting, ugh.

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