From our part (we = older users), what we should do is what we already do: when talking about Lemmy we should recommend general purpose instances relatively free of such drama.

Tagging also @schizo@forum.uncomfortable.business .

[–] schizo@forum.uncomfortable.business 5 points 1 week ago

This and the 'the server is for x topics'. Those just confuse people because if you don't understand federation, you think that means 'you can only talk about x here' which is not how it works at all, but it's very much how things are still being presented.

And for all the 'lemmy.ml bad', it's only bad if you're discussing one of their sacred cows (bears?), and otherwise perfectly reasonably usable, and getting more people on the fediverse is preferable to purity testing every community that tries to move off reddit.