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Do you interpret a 👍 as a rude reply? (leminal.space)

submitted 4 days ago by Flamangoman@leminal.space to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Every time somebody sends me a thumb I take it as "whatever you say you fucking dumbass" and it pisses me off.

And ya, I'm aware that that the replies are going to be thumbs, let's see em ya jerks!!!

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[–] Zak@lemmy.world 42 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I see where you're coming from now. In most English-speaking cultures, it is not conventional to use hand gestures as a substitute for spoken words in a conversation. Breaking social conventions for no apparent reason is at least potentially rude.

You're translating those conventions directly to chat. Chat is not spoken word, and it is conventional to use emojis, at least the really unambiguous ones, instead of typed words in chat some of the time. People do not usually do this with any rude or insulting intent.

[–] Flamangoman@leminal.space 6 points 4 days ago

I appreciate the level headed reply in the sea of insanity I have started with this thread.

Honestly, I don't interpret it as something malicious ever either, like I don't think everyone is actually telling me to fuck myself, it just reads that way to me.