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I don't know how some people actually manage to maintain an actual friendship with more than 3 people, really. Like, where the fuck do you find the time to have 20 close friends?
You know, there are quite a few numbers between 3 and 20. Also you dont have to talk to them every single day. Just meaningful time together. Thats it.
Or at least this worked / works for me.
Yeah, but when?
What do you mean? When the time is right i guess?
If you mean how often, well that depends. Weekly / bi-weekly / monthly it really just how it goes.
Just because we dont meet up we dont just suddenly become strangers.
They probably don't. I feel like people's definition of what a friend is can be very loose.
I recognize some people I know as colleagues or acquaintances, but some people may think of them as friends were they in my shoes.
some folk i know just use friend, family, and enemy. colleague, acquaintance, and any other social relationship classification does not exist for them.
There are several people I consider (very) close friends, that don't live in the same city as me anymore. We message regularly, do some online gaming here and there and visit each other as often as possible. And every time we do it's just like back when we hung out in uni every day. While we don't have as much time as back then, the quality of friendship is the same or even grew. I think it's about consciously making time and the effort for each other, even if it can't be every other day or week.
Also not having kids makes it much easier, time wise, I guess.