this post was submitted on 24 Jun 2025
650 points (97.2% liked)
me_irl
6305 readers
1162 users here now
All posts need to have the same title: me_irl it is allowed to use an emoji instead of the underscore _
founded 2 years ago
MODERATORS
you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
view the rest of the comments
You know, there are quite a few numbers between 3 and 20. Also you dont have to talk to them every single day. Just meaningful time together. Thats it.
Or at least this worked / works for me.
[citation needed]
Large if factual
This is what I've observed of my partner and other more social people - they'll reach out to people they like semi-frequently just to check in, maybe arrange a date if it works, or maybe just trade memes.
Yeah, but when?
What do you mean? When the time is right i guess?
If you mean how often, well that depends. Weekly / bi-weekly / monthly it really just how it goes.
Just because we dont meet up we dont just suddenly become strangers.
It was more of a joke comment about your response. OP says he doesn't have time to spend with (more) friends and your response is to just spend more time with them.
Although I know that's not quite what you meant, I'm pointing it out in a deadpan way as to highlight the absurdity.
I wish I would see any of my friends monthly. I haven't seen my best friend in like 4 months or so.
Weekly meetups with 3+ friends, that's something you can do before you have a wife, kids and a job.
10 years ago, I had a really large social circle, with a group of ~15 people who met 1-4x per week. That was all fine and easy when the only commitment was university and part-time jobbing. But with a full-time job and kids, all that just disappears.
A week only has 168h. With work, sleep and family, there's not a lot left.
Well i did not think about that. Im in my mid twenties and i only have a job to worry about, so what i said came from this my perspective.
Wait for it ;) It's gonna get you like anyone else.
Except if you stay childless and then you are the rando with too much time while everyone else you know just disappears into sleep-deprivation-induced zombie mode.