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Most of us have pretended to be ok with something to save a relationship, or just to cope. What's something you pretended to be ok with?

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[–] klemptor@startrek.website 6 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Man that sucks :( I'm curious, why do you feel like you have to allow it and pretend to enjoy it?

[–] ZDL@lazysoci.al 5 points 1 month ago

There's give and take in every relationship. Sometimes I do things I'm not terribly fond of because my partner is. Sometimes the other direction is true. I don't do it frequently (because I don't really like any aspect of it), but sometimes 🤷‍♀️ you do things for love.

As for pretending to enjoy it, it wouldn't be much of a "reward" if I just visibly endured it. I don't go with people who only think of themselves; they usually want me to enjoy myself as well. I can do something that I don't really like for a while if it makes someone I love happy. And probably vice versa.