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I agree, when I was younger we would use worse words and, although I understand better now how they will be received, I could swear there was never any value associated with them back then. They were just descriptive words in the same way one would call a spade a spade - whether the spade is good or bad depends on the spade.
Right. It's just kids being kids. Imitating adults.
And I'm betting him playing games would jolt him back to his child brain in some way, too. Making it even more likely to have something like that slip out, when I'm normal conversation you would obviously never hear him (or us) say something like that (I'd have to assume).
I sometimes let out some sexual organ slurs, which are pretty bad in my language, when I'm playing games, but it's just because playing games is something I've done since childhood, and it can bring those words out, from those times. It's more controlled now, since I'm well into adulthood now and I only let out those words to friends who can tolerate them. Not to my family.
So yeah. I know why something like this can happen. It shouldn't be career-ending from his perspective (and to some degree it wasn't), but from the audience's perspective, it was a whole different thing.