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This idea that other people are looking at you and judging you at the gym is pure paranoia and a bit of a case of "main character syndrome"
No, it’s years of PE trauma.
No one is looking at you, you are not the main character. You're just a background NPC to them.
Thing is, it's not about being "the main character". Some people had a really rough time in school and for them it can feel that they're being judged by others even if most people aren't. Childhood trauma and psychological conditions are really complex and even if you can "logically" reason something to be true, your anxiety and your emotions are really really good at convincing you that your fears aren't unfounded.
Yeah school was awful for me. It took me a while to get comfortable in public spaces because of anxiety.
Lol you clearly don't go to the gym if you're saying this. Went to the YMCA as a kid and saw elliptical politics that made my middle school that literally split us into "teams" by economic class look tame in comparison. Because of the death of the third place in western society, any activity that isn't where you sleep or work becomes a third place, where people are kind of inherently judging the people around them, to fulfill this. All the shitty people you went to high school gym with are mostly the same people now, and need a place to continue their bullshit. Some will grow past this, but by that point the next generation of gym shitheads is ready.
The only way I agree with your comment is if you said "people at the gym aren't judging you any more than people outside the gym already do". Maybe it's just the area I live, but everything becomes a game of judgement. It's one thing to say "yeah I'm being judged by other people and I don't care". But to determine that you aren't being percieved at all off of this idea is more delusional than the idea that you are being percieved.
My experience is in line with @TJmCAwesome@feddit.nu
Maybe you have a case of the main character syndrome or some social anxiety yourself