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i think this is a rather interesting take, as someone who lives on the social fringes myself, and has no "support network" or real "social group" I'm what's best described as a social drifter, i don't like hanging around places all that much, and i don't like, and or am incapable of having proper friendships with others.
So when it comes to feeling unwelcome, for all intents and purposes here, i'm just going to argue that for the latter half of my life, that has been pretty much my experience of life. This also means i don't have certain types of experiences with people being dicks, because i can just fucking ignore them. But what i do understand, is how the isolation plays a factor, and how to pretty effectively deal with people you don't like in these situations.
And what i've learned is that you need to keep a distance. You shouldn't be attached to the community if possible, because being able to leave them is often a valuable asset to have. Notably, it doesn't solve the problem but it does keep you nomadic, and in control, which helps alleviate it.
Also for what it's worth, i don't think that this is uniquely female. I think it's a unique female account of the problem, but men also experience similar things. They just happen to be in different manners, so this is very much an "internet problem" more broadly.
Has been for the past 20 years, and will probably continue to be as such.
I don't actually want to be nomadic, I'd love nothing more than to have a group of gaming friends that lasts. Inevitably, each time finding a new group gets harder.
I have no support network, No real social group either. I am for all intent and purpose a ghost. My opinions don't matter, my presence isn't wanted. No one notices when I leave.