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Discord was already succumbing to enshitification. Now with their intention to be owned by Wall Street, that trajectory will certainly accelerate at warp speed once the change of hands happens.

Anyone already get ahead of this and find a solid alternative?

Right now I'm on the fence between Element for Matrix, and Revolt. Both seem to have their pros and cons and I can't find a clear "winner".

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[–] GoodLuckToFriends@lemmy.today 1 points 5 minutes ago

Just remember your friend, https://discorch.org/

[–] shym3q@programming.dev 2 points 1 hour ago* (last edited 1 hour ago)

I've started my self-hosting journey having Matrix in mind - especially the Matrix bridges to cut off the need to use social media clients like Discord.

Today, I'm slowly convicting my friends to join my instance. So far, that's just one of the closest ones (still win for me).

I hope one day decentralization in social media would take off!

[–] cupcakezealot@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 3 hours ago

if discord is going public they don't need my turbo sub anymore

[–] DieserTypMatthias@lemmy.ml 13 points 4 hours ago

Matrix is the way. It's federated and you can have your own server.

[–] Wolfizen@pawb.social 16 points 7 hours ago
[–] xelar@lemmy.ml 15 points 7 hours ago
[–] PlexSheep@infosec.pub 6 points 6 hours ago (2 children)
[–] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 hours ago (2 children)

That's a throwback. Let's take it one step further and just get back on Ventrilo and play some DOTA. (For the younger folks who don't get the reference: https://youtu.be/aTJncWndUB8 )

[–] EchoCranium@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 hour ago

Used to use Vent playing Eve Online 19 years ago. Worked great back then. Apparently it's still around, but still no Linux support after all these years.

[–] waz@lemmy.world 3 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

I am certainly not one of the younger folks and had never seen that before. That is awesome, thank you for sharing.

[–] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 hour ago

Oh man, Basshunter was huge in the chronically-online gamer space in the 2000s. His other songs are pretty good too.

To put it in perspective, the fact that they're gaming on laptops and LCD monitors was an enviable flex when his songs released.

[–] Randelung@lemmy.world 3 points 3 hours ago
[–] Realitaetsverlust@lemmy.zip 7 points 7 hours ago

Me and my brother are using teamspeak to this day.

[–] slomosapien@lemmy.ml 1 points 5 hours ago

Its been a while since I used Revolt, I use element everyday. But I'd prefer something more "third party" too. Revolt was servicable back in 2020, maybe it has gotten better?

[–] Turnbomb@lemmy.ml 12 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago) (1 children)

Is there any option to stay on discord but better? Like vencord or something similar through Linux? I cannot imagine being able to get my friends off of discord ever.

[–] RichardDegenne@lemm.ee 14 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

I guess that's the biggest hurdle, especially when it comes to social apps. One tech-savvy person wanting to migrate is usually not enough to start moving a community, even as a small as a group of friends.

[–] ricdeh@lemmy.world 3 points 5 hours ago

Had to experience that first hand. I tried to get my best friends to register on my Matrix server last September and join a room for our group, and they did, but I rarely see any of them online and I only get responses days later, if at all. One even stopped using it entirely, lol. Ah well, but at least I got a Matrix server out of that that I can use to federate with other like-minded people.

[–] jagged_circle@feddit.nl 7 points 10 hours ago (1 children)
[–] farcaller@fstab.sh 5 points 7 hours ago

Matrix is spectacularly cursed to the point of being unusable if you self-host it. The protocol is dumb enough to lock you out of rooms hosted on another server forever if anything goes wrong with the key rotation.

[–] psycho_driver@lemmy.world 14 points 13 hours ago

If you just need voice comms and basic chat mumble/murmur has worked great for me for ages.

[–] XiberKernel@lemmy.world 14 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago) (5 children)

Honest question, but on a technical level isn’t discord basically IRC with some bells, whistles, emojis, and a some WebRTC Logic wrapped in electron with a large marketing budget? Throw in some cloud storage and a CDN for images. What am I missing? I’m not saying it’s “easy”, but I’m curious what it would take to build a solid streamlined FOSS alternative built on combining existing technologies.

Edit: I’m not familiar with the ecosystem… is the issue with existing FOSS bad UI and complicated onboarding? Missing features? Or is it simply a critical mass issue?

[–] LwL@lemmy.world 1 points 1 hour ago

One of the major draws of discord is the fact that they host the servers for you, for free. Anyone can make an account, click a button, and have a discord server.

Afaik matrix does allow this (haven't used it personally) but it's something where I am a bit worried about hosting costs if it reaches a large scale. (Also unsure about how the matrix protocol works precisely, but if defederation is a thing which I feel like it has to be, I can see it leading to huge pains since discords use case is often about being part of a specific communitu, as opposed to twitter or reddit. Being unable to join a groip or see some messsges because of federation issues would be a major headache).

[–] tofu@lemmy.nocturnal.garden 3 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

Does IRC have performant voicechat?

[–] NikkiDimes@lemmy.world 5 points 5 hours ago

That would be the WebRTC logic.

[–] echolalia@lemmy.ml 11 points 10 hours ago (2 children)

In addition to the replies you got already, discord has screen sharing/streaming. An experience kind of like zoom (I don't use it and dont see the appeal but maybe someone who does can elaborate more. My partner uses this feature sometimes).

[–] Takumidesh@lemmy.world 2 points 1 hour ago

I commonly will be in a call with friends, where we all stream the games we are playing independently to each other.

Another use case, one person screen shares YouTube for group watching

And one more, we will often play chess and screen share so others can watch.

This is for a group of 3-10 people typically

[–] Unforeseen@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 hours ago

A group of friends use this every weekend to play party games (Like jackbox games). One person streams and everyone uses a browser to interact.

If I want to show a friend a new game, I use it as well.

[–] dubyakay@lemmy.ca 10 points 11 hours ago

Discord is not even necessarily Electron. I'm running it as Datcord, which is a Firefox based wrapper.

Discord has a searchble chat history, which is what sets it apart from IRC. Everything else can be emulated by modern IRC clients, such as emoji and embedded / unfurling images and link previews.

However imagine the chat history as if you had a bouncer that has 100% uptime and joined all possible chat channels from their creation, along with offering you search and buffer.

If not IRC, either Matrix or XMPP should be capable of this.

I'm fairly sure Discord's popularity was due to aggressive marketing, likely during their venture capital funding rounds. Something which FOSS does not have.

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[–] Kuvwert@lemm.ee 101 points 18 hours ago (3 children)

Ah this is so exciting!

Discord 'existing' has held back development motivation on Foss Federated Communication alternatives.

When they go public only good things will happen for projects like matrix :)

I'm very excited!

[–] possiblylinux127@lemmy.zip 25 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago) (1 children)

Matrix is cool but it really suffers from complexity.

The spec is a mess because they keep expanding it.

[–] douglasg14b@lemmy.world 13 points 12 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago)

Let's not mention the abysmal performance for servers. Making it largely infeasible to scale.

It's not the solution, not even remotely close, unfortunately.

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[–] Rhaxapopouetl@ttrpg.network 4 points 10 hours ago

Alternatives to discord, open source or not:

https://alternativeto.net/software/discord-app/

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