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[–] PandaParent@lemmy.ca 3 points 6 days ago

I don’t buy into this whole narrative. There’s a 2023 study that shows very little change in men’s political views over the past four generations. It’s women, especially white women, who have swung hard to the left, and Gen Z women are twice as likely to call themselves “liberal” as Boomer women. Young women cited the following reasons:

“The #MeToo movement was a defining cultural moment for many young women, informing their views about the treatment of women in society. Donald Trump’s election in 2016 was another formative event for many young women, who remained uniquely opposed to him throughout his presidency. Finally, the overturn of Roe v. Wade, the Supreme Court ruling that established a right to abortion, was a uniquely salient issue for young women, who identified it as their most crucial concern in the months following.”

The caveat is that this is an American study. But if we extrapolate to Canada, it’s women who are driving the gender gap between the LPC and CPC. Men are just as conservative as they’ve always been. The only difference between now and 1965 is that they’re all shouting about it on social media, whereas back then, they just bitched about it in bars.

[–] Maeve@kbin.earth 97 points 1 week ago (2 children)

The manosphere is the symptom.

[–] BedSharkPal@lemmy.ca 40 points 1 week ago (2 children)

This. I would argue housing affordability is one of the main root causes.

[–] WhatAmLemmy@lemmy.world 30 points 1 week ago (1 children)

All of vulture capitalism is the cause.

[–] Maeve@kbin.earth 20 points 1 week ago

Capitalism in general, from observing for 40 years.

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[–] Quill7513@slrpnk.net 8 points 1 week ago (2 children)
[–] Maeve@kbin.earth 11 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I'll give it a watch, thank you! I'm not saying it's not problematic and doesn't amplify the crazy, btw. It most certainly does. The sickness is not creating a society that has time, money, and skill set necessary to well... properly socialize our population, as well as innoculate them against this mess. But in a sane world, most manosphere garbage would be banned as hate speech, probably.

[–] Quill7513@slrpnk.net 15 points 1 week ago (1 children)

100%, this video mostly goes into how fascism requires violent men to sustain it, and so violent men it will create through isolation and harmful propaganda. it's basically positive feedback loop where as fascism gains more ground, it isolates us more, making it easier to make men feel lonely and like they're failures, and that the system doesn't work, but instead of trying to make the system work by embracing a new view, they instead move from violence to hyperviolence.

the video basically both agrees with you, and at the same time makes a compelling argument that all the people killing us right now are sad pathetic losers whose daddies never loved them, and they see no avenue to a better tomorrow so they do… this

[–] Maeve@kbin.earth 7 points 1 week ago

the video basically both agrees with you, and at the same time makes a compelling argument that all the people killing us right now are sad pathetic losers whose daddies never loved them, and they see no avenue to a better tomorrow so they do… this

That's basically why I've moved from a "f them , they get what they deserve" to trying to establish dialogue that offers a path to redemption/atonement. If the person demonstrates no good faith and continues to attack, boundaries must be set and enforced. When good faith is demonstrated, we try again. If they revert to abhorrent behavior, we set former and more extensive boundaries. If they are straight up belligerent/dangerous, we segregate and rehabilitate/re-educate humanely, and attempt reintegration. Capitalism is not the system for that. It's time to try socialism.

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[–] RaskolnikovsAxe@lemmy.ca 70 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

The problem is that something is missing and it's being filled by angry reactionaries and right wing grifters who prey on the particular insecurities of young men, specifically insecurities around masculine values.

What's missing is a foundational framework for understanding the male experience as distinct yet coequal to feminist theory. A framework that seeks to promote a balanced, respectful dialogue by articulating unique structures, values, and challenges faced by men, in order to offer a lens through which male identity, struggle, and transformation can be understood on their own terms, while upholding - acknowledging - the progress and insights of feminism.

These men feel like they don't have purpose or identity. They need a framework, but unfortunately efforts to define and build such a framework are often hijacked by extremists that just hate women and minorities. Like we see now.

[–] oce@jlai.lu 19 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Do we really need to make the framework different for male and female humans? Why not use one for humans and teach tolerance to difference in general? I don't think many of the issues we face will be solved if we keep two different frameworks.

[–] RaskolnikovsAxe@lemmy.ca 23 points 1 week ago (1 children)

The framework that is built from the oppression of women, and the challenges that arise from that, does not represent the lived experiences, challenges, or values of men. All too often it diminishes these. To move forward in a spirit of mutual understanding requires a recognition of what matters to men; i.e., what provides purpose and value.

I feel that you may be misunderstanding me. This is exactly about tolerance and acceptance - including acceptance that men and women have different lived experiences that are founded on different fundamental principles of what is important and what provides purpose. Is it really so difficult to accept that men might find purpose or value that differs from women? I don't believe there is harm in acknowledging that, and respecting a healthy understanding of that difference.

[–] oce@jlai.lu 7 points 1 week ago

I don't deny that the current experience of life is different because of gender/sex. So I am rather talking about the target, a society without sexism.

Is it really so difficult to accept that men might find purpose or value that differs from women?

Yes, I am indeed questioning this point. Is this difference in the essence of the gender or is it a social construct?

For me, it's actually not hard to imagine that men and women could share the same distribution of purposes and values, if the environment in which they grew up supported it. The diversity would be based on the uniqueness of individuals with little to no influence from the gender.

I find it very oppressing to have the specific framework you mention associated to you because of your gender. What about transgender people or people who don't associate with a traditional gender?

[–] AGM@lemmy.ca 6 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Chinese culture has the concept of 'eating bitterness' and it is universal. It's about being able to take the suffering, loss, pain, humiliation, and all the other bitter stuff that life can throw at you, enduring it, and building character, strength, and resilience out of it. It's a virtue. It's a universally admired trait.

North American culture is not great at eating bitterness. The culture here is more about eating sweet, or living the good life, and when people have to eat bitterness, especially those expecting to eat sweet, it is viewed as shameful and castigating rather than normal, and it easily turns a person towards grievance and a sense of injustice that makes them bitter inside instead of resilient and optimistic.

This is why I think men in North America, especially white men, have turned to characters like Jordan Peterson, or in worse cases, Andrew Tate. Jordan Peterson at least tries to help these men develop a sense of responsibility and strength that can be constructive and meaning- making. Guys like Tate, on the other hand, exploit their grievance to make them socially nihilistic. One is obviously much better than the other, but neither is a substitute for having a common social value place upon eating bitterness.

The "manosphere" gives aggrieved, frustrated, disappointed, and angry men stories to help them process their emotions, but they still rely upon self-centered and egotistical tropes like the hero's journey or misogynistic worldviews. These don't address the deeper and more universal reality that none of us (male or female) are heroes from Marvel movies, that deep, painfully-bitter experience is part of the common human journey, and that eating that bitterness with humility and without expectation of any award for being special, is a virtue that helps you develop character.

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[–] GrackleBirb@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 week ago (2 children)

AFAB here and I agree 100% - the issue is that by elevating that which used to acceptably be oppressed, the primary oppressor feels that they have lost station and position as they see society as a ladder - if you aren't at the top someone else is above you. That kind of thinking makes this even more difficult to solve.

[–] Goodmorningsunshine@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] GrackleBirb@lemmy.ca 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

AFAB = a female at birth AMAB = a male at birth

The More You Know

[–] wolfyvegan@slrpnk.net 1 points 1 day ago

For the longest time, when I would see "AMAB" in someone's profile anywhere online, I thought that it stood for "All Men Are Bastards."

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[–] kent_eh@lemmy.ca 42 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I must live in a bubble. Both of my (university age) kids and their friends are vocally offended by Trump and Musk, and they think Polierve is a bad joke.

My oldest games online with a few Americans and they are also very anyi-trump. ("They wouldn't be my friends if they supported him")

[–] 200ok@lemmy.world 8 points 1 week ago

This gives me hope for the future

[–] tabloid@feddit.org 5 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

You are most likely living in a bubble. Cherish it, but don't forget, that there are a lot of people that feel different from you.

I do have the same experience. My social circle is very much open, tolerant and absolutely hates what the GOP in America and right leaning/right wing parties in Europe are doing and proposing. I know almost no young people that support strong conservative or right leaning policy and talking points. I am however also in contact with a different group of people (through my countrys military/military reserve), that very much leans into those right talking points and favours more conservative policy.

If you can, engage with them and try to understand them and help them understand your point.

[–] arankays@lemmy.ca 41 points 1 week ago

Well the kids are leaning right because of propaganda and mind control. Plain and simple. Instagram and Twitter actively push ragebait content designed to radicalise impressionable kids.

[–] lobut@lemmy.ca 40 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Talked to a few of my friend's kids. They all think Musk is a genius.

I see Andrew Tate victims in all of them.

Ugh, what a terrible future we have.

[–] riodoro1@lemmy.world 40 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Shitty parenting and the education system being eroded year by year. This is the generation that the billionaires wanted. Poor, stupid and complicit.

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[–] Thepotholeman@lemmy.ca 34 points 1 week ago

These kids have got awful fucking parents

[–] wirebeads@lemmy.ca 30 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Both JP and PP couldn’t fight their way out of a wet paper bag and they’re waxing poetic about masculinity?

PP’s so masculine that when one of the racist supporters said he’d rape his wife, this powerhouse just pulled down his pants, bent over and took it.

Anything these twats says is absolute nonsense.

[–] psvrh@lemmy.ca 8 points 1 week ago (2 children)

You who could fight, though?

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[–] senoculum@lemmy.ca 27 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Gen x parents have dropped the ball so hard it’s not even funny.

[–] derzeppo@sh.itjust.works 17 points 1 week ago (2 children)

So much alcoholism. And 2008 happening in their prime earning years caused several gen X’ers I know to never recover financially.

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[–] Alpha71@lemmy.world 23 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (3 children)

Look, the only reason people start getting conservative, is when needs and wants start getting harder to acquire. Want to change that? then have affordable living make a come back. There's a reason why a decade ago people were more liberal, because shit was more affordable.

[–] Fredthefishlord@lemmy.blahaj.zone 18 points 1 week ago (11 children)

Sounds to me what you're saying is "people start getting conservative when they don't actually understand any economics at all"

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[–] WheelerSelanne@lemmy.ca 7 points 1 week ago

I've lived in a small rural prairie riding all my life. It's been not conservative one term in the last 40-50 years. The people who complain the most about Canada being broken are the ones who have owned their houses since the 90's and worked the same jobs for pretty much as long and have the health care system all their long lives and starting to collect cpp even while continuing to work, as long as it doesn't put them too much into the next tax bracket. They can't really explain how Canada is broken for them, beyond talking points. They can't really explain what they think Conservatives will do to fix the things they don't really know are wrong. They just vote conservative because liberal bad. The fuck Carney signs came out the day after he was confirmed as Liberal party leader. There was no time to formulate a hate for him, it was immediately implemented mindlessly

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[–] peoplebeproblems@midwest.social 22 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I still don't understand how they are doing it.

At no point in history could you go to the woman dealership and buy a woman. You could maybe pay for a little time with a woman, or buy a slave at a slave auction. You could negotiate with a woman's father some exchange for his daughter. But that exchange usually had to have something of value, and it also meant you lived beyond the age of 30.

Like I get that younger people are dumb, and being a man, I can attest that men are particularly dumb, but how fucking whacked are these men thinking they will somehow benefit from this?

[–] Semi_Hemi_Demigod@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago (2 children)

The strict dress code for women came about because debt collectors would show up to farms in the Fertile Crescent to demand payment on a loan, and decide to take their daughters as payment. (Drunkenly-remembered source: Graeber, "Debt: The First 5,000 Years.")

I'm just gonna say it

Humans have a weird system for propagating the species.

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[–] Sixtyforce@sh.itjust.works 21 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Where are their fucking parents? My generation bitches endlessly about boomers, then...raises another generation of them?

Nice.

[–] nroach44@aussie.zone 13 points 1 week ago (4 children)

Both working and burnt out by the rise in everything costing so much but wages being stagnant?

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[–] Kecessa@sh.itjust.works 18 points 1 week ago (6 children)

Social democracy let everyone down (by being neither social or democratic, thanks to politicians thinking about their rich friends) and now people are surprised that a generation started to believe that an authoritarian leader would be better.

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[–] AceFuzzLord@lemm.ee 12 points 1 week ago

I vote for counter propaganda feeding them that right leaning people are all child predators or will become one. Make them demonized the same way they demonize the left.

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