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Its Pride month! What are some subtle signs someone is anti lgbt? (lazysoci.al)
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Many anti lgbt people are careful with what they say, and don't say or do anything overtly anti. What are some subtle signs?

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[–] kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

Ill list a few telling signs:

  1. Saying "gender ideology" or "biological gender" (which is absolute nonsense)
  2. Asking bad faith questions (such as demanding you debate your rights)
  3. Complaining about "woke" people or "radical leftists"
  4. Saying "I support Queer people buuuuut..."
  5. Implying the existence of Queer people is new, like gay marriage only appeared two decades ago
  6. Saying "I just don't understand" and then making absolutely no effort to understand
  7. Complaining about Queer people whenever they're visible (such as in media or on the news)
  8. Men speaking on behalf of Women in claiming that Queer people are a threat to them (to justify allowing cishet men to "inspect gender")
  9. Saying "I don't want my children exposed to that" (they expose their kids to cishet romance)
  10. Saying "Leave my kids alone" (they think they own their kids and can force them to be a certain way)
  11. Trying to sow division (ex: why do all queer people need to fight together when they can ~~be divided and conquered~~ "speak louder alone")
  12. Saying "I just believe in traditional marriage and a traditional family" (nothing is traditional about the nuclear family)
[–] LadyButterfly@lazysoci.al 3 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

This is a brilliant list. We should make it into a WomensStuff bingo board!

[–] kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 11 hours ago

I should make one, hmmmm :3

First im gonna sleep, maybe tommorow

[–] MystValkyrie@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 20 hours ago* (last edited 20 hours ago)

That in 2025, they're still obsessed with the idea of a person who is offended by differing opinions and wants to ban them, not recognizing the irony.

Sometimes open discussion might be useful, but with where the world is at, this is usually code for the person not liking gay or trans people, women, or minorities and wants to be able to say slurs openly without consequence.

[–] vantablack@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 1 day ago (1 children)

they insist on using the archaic "he" as a generic pronoun instead of the much more inclusive singular they

[–] Zathras@lemmy.zip 8 points 1 day ago

I think it also is a generational thing. I have have had many friends of various sexualities throughout my 4+ decades on this earth. The pronoun thing is just harder to stick in my brain. One of my colleagues is my first acquaintance who uses they/them. I have the utmost respect for them but took me about a year before using their preferred pronoun came naturally to me. Just hard to rewire old neurons sometimes.

[–] earlgrey0@sh.itjust.works 23 points 1 day ago (1 children)

The “I just don’t understand…” crowd. I have yet to meet anyone who legitimately did not understand why a person would want to be called their preferred name, or why someone would want to marry who they love. It seems to just be a way to feel out if the person they’re talking to is amenable to list to their “discomfort” with whichever group they are referring to.

[–] LadyButterfly@lazysoci.al 13 points 1 day ago

That's a really good point, everyone understands "It's Vicky not Victoria" so pronouns aren't hard to grasp

[–] LadyButterfly@lazysoci.al 13 points 1 day ago

A big one is avoidance and awkwardness. It can just be not being used to, or scared of saying the wrong things eg not understanding pronouns. However, it can be a sign that we're a pariah to them, or their silent v sign.

Laughing is another one. Laughing at the idea of gay sex, finding transphobic jokes hilarious and things like that are subtle signs. Why are LGBT a joke?

There's loads of things, but IME those are the biggest.