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When someone says "With all due respect...", they'll inevitably follow it with an insult. In that case, the person is therefore also implying that the recipient is due NO respect since they're insulting them. Boom, double-roast. Maybe obvious, but apparently not to me... with all due respect to me.

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[–] cloudless@piefed.social 19 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

No offense. But I'm completely going to offend you.

[–] Empricorn@feddit.nl 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

No offense, but this comment sucks.

[–] lena@gregtech.eu 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Yes offense, but this comment is great and so are you <3

[–] Empricorn@feddit.nl 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

No offense, but I was lying. I wish you the softest animals to pet!

EDIT: Wait, you're a different person! Still...

[–] lena@gregtech.eu 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] Empricorn@feddit.nl 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 22 hours ago)

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[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 13 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I don't know who you talk with but "with all due respect" is followed by disagreeing with something you said. Not an insult. The disagreement could be dissmissive of your previous argument like "thats bullshit" which gets pretty close to an insult but its really just poor argumentation on their part. The problem is not with the phrase "with all due respect" its with the individual using it.

[–] TrickDacy@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

I agree, with all due respect

[–] lvxferre@mander.xyz 5 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

[unfunny guy analysing the whole thing]
The case with "with all due respect" is a lot like Japanese 貴様 kisama: misplaced respect is interpreted as ironic and sarcastic, thus rude.

Because, like, there are a few cases where "with all due respect" is genuine, but they all involve someone in a hierarchically inferior position contradicting a superior; student/teacher, underlying/boss, etc. In those situations the expression is there to convey "I acknowledge my position, and I'm not questioning it, but I need to say my honest views".

On the internet, though? Hierarchy? Mpfffffft. [/unfunny guy]

inb4 I got the OP, on "all due respect" + no respect = "this is how much respect you deserve: ZERO!". I'm just nerding out with language.

[–] TrickDacy@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

Not everything has to be funny. You're correct.

[–] spankmonkey@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Not to be racist, but...

Yeah in the case of all due respect it is used in formal situations to signal that the recipient that it isn't supposed to take criticism personally. I also see it as an insult since you are pointing out the person is most likely going to take it personally.

I prefer the Nick Fury approach.

Nick Fury saying "I recognize the council has made a decidion, but seeing that it's a stupid ass decision, I have chosen to ignore it."

[–] Schwim@lemmy.zip 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

No offense but I disagree with your statement, regardless of how well it was thought out.

[–] baggachipz@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

With all due respect, you only insulted me once.

[–] Schwim@lemmy.zip 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

With all due respect, I feel as if there wasn't another insult in the statement, then "with all due respect" was no longer an insult, making the entire statement insult-free. Of course, I could be wrong.

[–] baggachipz@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 day ago

No offense, but that was my little game 😉

[–] Bakkoda@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

An i messing up the curve if I'm intentionally leading with that among others specifically to insult people?

Bless your heart is another good one