The neat part is that "chilling" is one of the things you need to put on that to-do list and make time for too!
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Might work for some people, though that has never worked for me. Budgeting time to chill just leaves me feeling like the clock is always ticking on my chill time. And that stress ends up making my chill time less chill.
It's like going to bed when anxious. You're worried about not getting enough sleep for something stressful the next day, but then that added stress about not getting enough sleep keeps you from sleeping.
If anyone figures that one out, please let me know.
I'm so tired of being tired for things that I need or want to be awake for. Work presentation? can't sleep. Road trip? can't sleep. Concert? can't sleep. It's not even always negative anxiety: That thing I'm excited about tomorrow afternoon? up.all.night.
I can self-medicate to a degree, but even that is hit or miss. I used to caffeinate myself to get through these, but have cut things like coffee since the pandemic and now only very rarely use them.
Same, the cycle is awful...
The only thing that let's me get enough sleep on one day is having not nearly enough the day before.
Then there's the battle of mental health good if going to bed early, waking up early, assuming i can sleep, versus having a social life.
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If you do get some time off, you can always fill it with worries and anxieties!
As a wise meme I saw the other day stated, worrying about things works: 95% of the things I worry about never happen!
A 20 year old that I worked with asked me what I did over my weekend. My response was basically a list of chores and errands.
She responded, "Nice, you were adulting hard."
I responded, "Unfortunately, I'm just an adult."
Hobbies are important to mental health.
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At one point, I was in a couples' therapy session and I had recently been diagnosed with cystic fibrosis. I realized (and said) in that session that I would never have a break again. Vacation from work? Still have cystic fibrosis to deal with.
Of course, this is different from person to person, but for me, a lot of anxiety comes from me putting it off. I found that taking care of the shit as soon as possible gives me the time to truly chill until the next wave of shit comes.
The never ending chill boulder up the hill.
Haha, exactly. Wasn't Sysiphus's story about finding joy in a never-ending, repetitive process? I'm wondering if I'll ever reach that level of enlightenment.
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Part of being an adult is knowing what you can ignore for a while and what you can't. So I don't really see a problem there.
It's like juggling balls. Some are rubber and you can drop and pick up when they bounce up. Some are crystal and if you drop them they will shatter. You gotta learn which ones are which.
Dropping them sounds like a surefire way for figuring out which is which.
Yeah but some of those crystals are temporally slowed down by time and only shatter after a prolonged period.
Like not brushing your teeth or ignoring that oil change.
You can pick it back up but the damage is done.
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Especially when you own a house. It never ends.
At least you are empowered to make long term steps to make it better.
Source:missed out on buying a house 2 years ago, still devastated.
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I've had the opposite experience lol. Don't have to call the landlord several times to repair the same broken dishwasher that's been repaired 4 times before. I can just grab a free one from classifieds and install myself.
As long as the roof, foundation, and plumbing are good I'm not required to do shit.
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I have to say, there is an established solution to this problem: having a functional and comminicative extended family/social network. Car trouble? Your uncle and cousin can help you fix it tomorrow. Paying rent/mortgage? Not when you live in the big family home with 3 other generations of people that's been paid off for the last 50 years. Cooking dinner? Grandma and aunt Bethel do it every night with help from the kids. Doing your taxes? Family friend Joe is an accountant and is glad to answer a few simple questions for you.
Unfortunately, most peoples' families are annoying as fuck.
I come from a culture where multigenerational homes are a thing and me and my partner have done the unthinkable to break free from it. We have been shunned and ostricized for not following on the traditional way and as painful as it can be I will not subject my child to the burden of it. I know that te dream of having a solo home is that for many, just a dream, but multigenerational homes are a different kind of hell.
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Nobody on their death bed ever wishes they'd spent more time working.
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You 100% must learn how to not give a fuck sometimes. I’ve found that alcohol helps with this.
Ah yes.
The cause of, and solution to, most of life's problems.
I wish they had something to like shut my brain off and just do the shit I need to do without the significant amount of effort it takes. I just don't care about so many things that need to get down and I'm nervous to do half of them for no good reason.
Adderall helps me actually pay attention. And stay quiet.
But Jesus all this other shit that goes on makes everything insufferable.
Hang in there, it gets worse
country music talked about that years ago ... I still enjoy quoting an old song from Hank Williams from the 1940s
"I'll never get out of this world alive!"
Would've been ironic if Hank Williams had later become an astronaut.
I think several of the astronaut crews were fans of Hank Williams ... I pretty sure one of them played this tune while floating in space looking down at the earth.
I'm just always cutting the grass and staring at my overgrown garden.
You become aware of the futility of existence, how in another 50 years if youre lucky none of this will matter in the slightest because you'll be dead, just as life becomes the hardest to cope with.
So anyone 25-40 and still pretending to smile - youre a fucking warrior.
I cant find the relevant SMBC.
Yeah dude, the most important part about chilling is shutting off the worry tap and fully ignoring it for a while
God I feel this in my core.
ouch. I'm reading this while chilling.
BIG chillin over here. I've discovered that giving myself at least one day every other week of mandatory not giving a fuck actually makes me fare more able to deal with the shit that needs to be dealt with the rest of the time.
For me it’s Sunday. Mon-Fri is work, Saturday is chores, Sunday is big chillin. (Except things like taking out the trash and whatnot of course)
You were brainwashed to think that you are supposed to be hyper individualistic - you arent.
Meh, not really. Things to sort out come in batches and are spread out.
For me the surprising thing about adulting was how many exams there are. I genuinely believed that once I got my degree I would be done with studying for exams but no, there's always another one to pass. Language exams, professional certifications, license exams for different hobbies. This shit never ends.
I graduated almost 15 years ago and have never taken another exam lol
Depends where, the personal circumstances, and how much money one has. In "civilization", it's so horribly easy to succumb to existential dread and chronic anxiety.
There are places where your waking life is figuratively or literally flipping burgers, constantly bombarded by requests for something to be fixed, and you're given little to no time to pause except for which to go home, eat and sleep. Then there are places where you could wake up one morning and just walk out into the beach, trying to figure out what to do next.